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Does life feel like a constant to do list?

Asked by JLeslie (59798points) May 8th, 2016 from iPhone

I’m so tired of it. When I was younger it didn’t feel like that. I’ve been trying to figure out why. Is it because when I was younger I was just young? Or, were things very different?

I hate it. I don’t want to read anything longer than a sentence anymore, unless it’s for fun. I wish I could just trust doctors, lawyers, and accountants to do their jobs correctly. I wish paying them didn’t cost so much, and then I still worry about them doing stuff correctly. I also have had jobs recently that require a lot of focus on reading, accuracy, and entering data.

I always liked the idea of simplifying, but now I really want it. I won’t get it though. Not yet.

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ucme's avatar

For the staff perhaps, but they’re paid well.
Me, no, take everything in my stride…one day at a time sweet nazarine

Cruiser's avatar

Now that I have the main estate and the summer cottage the constant hiring and firing of staff is a near full time job…..Sorry…I was momentarily possessed by @ucme….

Things were very different when I was younger no doubt about it. Never in my right mind back then would I imagine doing even a third of what I do and have to do today but somehow it gets done and I still have fun doing it and find time to have fun fun. Though it helps greatly to have a to-do list towards getting chores done…it is even more helpful to have a have-fun list where chores take a back burner for the time being. Today is one of those days!

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Unofficial_Member's avatar

Only if you think to much about it. My personal general rule to do things I don’t like is “Just do it and be done with it” and go home to enjoy your life. The more you plan the future the less you will enjoy your present time. Carpe Diem.

If you don’t like to read you can skim. Don’t worry about how your accountant, etc do their job, they’re professional, and if they do things wrong they’re liable for any damage done to you based on contract.

Just relax and make your job enjoyable. You can turn on your favourite music while working, snacking, apply essential oils, or other things that make your life/job more enjoyable. And last but not least, don’t forget to be grateful. You may need a lot of focus to do a somewhat adminstrative job but remember many other people are struggling to do physical-demanding jobs just to make ends meet. I wish the best for you.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

At times yes.

ragingloli's avatar

“Life is like a box of ammo, Forrest” – Forrest Gump, directed by Zack Snyder

Pachy's avatar

To be honest, as I get older I find my Not-Do list growing longer.

johnpowell's avatar

Maybe it is time to think about your money-life balance. You seem more focused on $$ than life.

I’m the inverse. I like to party and do just enough for rent and party supplies.

It isn’t all or nothing. I would work on finding a balance.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

Hope you don’t get in the habit of letting peace of mind pass you by.

@JLeslie has a thoughtful mind and high standards… enough to check performance of doctors, lawyers, accountants. We need more peeps with high standards like that.

Instead of stressing about it (though it’s healthy to voice aloud)... but instead, try patting yourself on the back for being so thorough. Here… a pat on the back from me in recognition of your mindfulness. Smile through it. Makes it better. Good job @JLeslie.

Just remember that we do this for the peace of mind received for the effort. Go for the peace of mind. That’s the goal. You won’t find it in many others. You get it from your own efforts.

Yes I’ve been through it… Still am. And being a Still am is one of the ways of knowing that I’m an I am. You are too! Bravo!

jca's avatar

You’ve all probably heard me say it before – 8 hour work day, one hour commute each way = out of the house at least 10 hours each day. As a single mother who works full time, I don’t have a choice with many things I do as they’re for the child or with the child (parties, recitals, doctor and dentist visits, etc.). I sometimes feel like a hamster on a wheel but I have no choice and most parents say “enjoy it now because it’s over before you know it and then they’re off to college.” I’m trying to remember that. Still, I feel like I’m always rushing and always running. I often envy the moms who don’t work. There are many in my daughter’s school system who have a hubby who works and they (the moms) take the kids to soccer practice, dance class, whatever and when the kids are in school, they do yoga, aerobics, take walks around the track, whatever. I envy that free time.

When I have a free day on a weekend, I feel guilty if I do very little. I also try to remind myself that it’s few and far between when I have a free day or a free half-day. There are fun things I’d like to do in my free time, like attend an art museum that I’ve been wanting to get back to, and then there’s just rest. It’s a tossup each free time. Rest vs. fun. If I rest, I may not get a chance to get to the art museum for a month or two. Maybe the exhibit will be over when I have my next free day. If I run to the art museum, then I’m missing out on some solitude. I can always clean and organize my house, but add that to the list of things that need to get done but there’s no time to get done.

My mom was telling me last night that she said to one of her co-workers once, when he was retiring, that she wished she could retire (at the time). He told her “don’t wish your life away.” In other words, once you’re old enough to retire, you’re older or old. Also, the older you get you may have health issues.

I know that everyone I know who retires, when I ask them what they’re doing now with their free time, they say they’re cleaning their house and organizing their closets.

I don’t think of you as being more focused on money than on life, @JLeslie. I think of you as typical of so many people now, people of all ages. People trying to work to pay bills, work to take a vacation, dealing with family issues, work issues, money issues, health issues and life issues.

stanleybmanly's avatar

So much of life is devoted to the humdrum routine of maintenance. The more “stuff” you have, the more work you have both keeping it up and protecting if from those who covet it. On the other hand, if you’re short of “stuff”, you face the grinding stress around making ends meet. And then you die.

Coloma's avatar

OMFG yes! lol
I am there right now, freaking exhausted, getting ready to make a move to a new little place and have a list 8 miles long. I need new curtains, area rugs, need to buy a new bed because my big bed will be too big for the bedroom space, going to take measurements today and see how much of my stuff will fit into the little abode, then try and re-arrange my storage, and maybe sell, liquidate some stuff. ( Anyone want a 40 year old, vintage, wool oriental rug that is 9×11 and weighs about 150 lbs. rolled up? haha )
Need to employ a lot of creativity to make things work. Have about 3 doctors appts. scheduled, need to plan my work schedule around the 3 day Colonoscopy blow out, pun intended, line up a ride home since this doc sedates you.

Along with my regular schedule/work duties, trying to get this scene in order. Need to put in a change of address soon, have three, 5 day pet/house sitting gigs between the end of this month and mid-June. One that overlaps with another a few miles apart so I will be running back and forth twice daily, while also trying to get the new digs ready for a 1st week of June move in date. The only thing in my favor is I am really good at rallying under pressure, even if it means I will running on empty until it’s all done, or I drop dead in my tracks. :-/

One damn thing after another, truer words have never been spoken. Hah!

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JLeslie's avatar

@Unofficial_Member I caught my accountant’s mistake for my 2015 taxes, which was an almost $2k mistake! Additionally, I thought to ask him about a moving expense, part of which I can write off (this is separate from the $2k) and so I missed that wrote off in 2014, because I didn’t think of it last year. Probably, I should get back just under $1k if I amend my 2014 taxes, but I’d also pay my accountant, and I don’t know if I want to risk an amendment, because it feel like the IRS would look closer at amendments, but that might not be true I don’t know. Pain in the neck.

@johnpowell My husband got laid off. 6 months later he got a job, we sold our house (you might remember that house was a big headache to build, because the builder screwed up, and I had to go to the county, pay a surveyor, engineer, and talked to a lawyer, but wound up not using the lawyer (still costs me $900 lawyer fees)) I quit my job, we moved to Ohio, and then the company told him they didn’t feel it was working out, and now he is out of work again. It’s crazy time here, but what I wanted to do was travel off and on for 6 months. Take a two week cruise through the Panama Canal. Then, once on the west coast see a jelly friend and some other friends. Go to Europe for a month. Visit a couple of jelly friends and spend some time in upstate NY. So, I’m not sure what you mean by my focus on money, but right now I’m not obsessed with making money or saving money. I am happy to not buy a house for 6 months to a year to not worry about that decision, which is a big money decision.

Well, my husband is too fucking ansy, and typical man stereotype, mentally tied to having a job. So he is buying a business (our first time as business owners except that I would as a self contractor at times) and I had to deal with am I paying too much for the business, is the contract ok, what insurance will I need, etc etc. I’m tired of it, I’m pissed about it. I want my vacation.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

I can’t believe how busy everyone is these days – including me. I have a running to do list. At the moment the one I started in February is 18 pages long. I’m not hopeful of it ever being very short. I actually really enjoy most aspects of my job, there is just too much of it. So yes, @JL, I do feel like there is a constant to-do list and have for a while. And it has nothing to do with money. I could earn more in a different role.

longgone's avatar

It does, as soon as I start writing To Do lists. I really try to avoid that, and remember that quote – “Most of the things that should be done today can also be done next Tuesday”. When I do write lists, I try to keep the tasks bite-sized – doable within thirty minutes. Here’s a video on this:

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