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Do you know what year your kids were born?

Asked by Dutchess_III (36251points) 2 months ago

I asked a friend’s husband what year one of his two daughters were born (the answer is 1976.) Those are the only kids he has. He said he didn’t know. That blew my mind. I know what year all 3 of my kids were born. If I had a zillion kids I suppose it might get confusing, but he only has 2.

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chyna's avatar

Note: I am not a parent. But I have noticed that most men I know, including my brothers, do not know when their kids’ birth year is. I know when all of their kids were born and I know when my brothers were born and graduated high school.
I think it’s a shame men don’t think it is up to them to remember their kids birth year and sometimes even the date. Pure laziness. They can remember episode 6 of King of the Hill but other things are not important to them.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I agree. Maybe it’s because they haven’t filled out reams and miles of paperwork since the day their children were born. Another shame

But I think it’s getting better.

johnpowell's avatar

Last year my mom brought me a manicotti on my B-day (I don’t eat sweets). Lovely gesture and she got the day right. But she was a month late.

It was actually perfect since it was a real surprise that she forgot the month a doctor cut me out of her stomach.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

As like @chyna I am not a parent, but let me guess this through a mans eyes, it is life changing to have kids, and again while lots of men will take the task of being a father very seriously they are not as vested in it as a woman is.
They are thinking of how to provide a good life for their families, so if they forget the year their blessings were born it’s not the end of the world as long as they are a good father and husband.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Rick lost his drivers license not long after he got it. This would be 1968 or so. His dad got him a replacement….and listed his birth year as 1952. He was born in 51.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

^See hell we can’t even remember the year we were born and you expect us to remember the year our kids(if I had any) were born?

Dutchess_III's avatar

His father gave the DMV the wrong date.

cookieman's avatar

I apologize in advance for having a penis, but I not only know my daughter and wife’s birthdays, but I actually plan and buy them gifts and cards every year. ::gasp::

I even enjoy the process.

Clearly I must have been a woman in a previous life.

Dutchess_III's avatar

We were talking about the year they were born.

cookieman's avatar

Yes, I know the year as well.

I can also read. Ya know, despite the penis.

rojo's avatar

1982 & 1988

jca's avatar

I have one child and I know the year she was born.

@johnpowell: Manicotti is the pasta dish with ricotta and sauce. It’s not a sweet. Maybe you had something else?

Dutchess_III's avatar

My kids were 78, 85 and 87. I only know 4 of my 10 grandkids by heart and that includes the twins: 95, 2003 and 2013 (the twins.)

Dutchess_III's avatar

@jca he said he doesn’t eat sweets. I think he was explaining why she didn’t get him a cake or something.

jca's avatar

Aha, I see @Dutchess_III. Got it.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I know my oldest’s full birthday because who can forget July 4th?
I remember the twins full birthday because it’s in a month that starts with a J like mine, which is July. And it’s on the same day of the month as mine. OH! I remember my youngest’s birthday because my son came up with “Mayth” on the day he was born…May 8th. Have to do a bit of math to get the year but he’s just 2 so I can do it in under 20 minutes.

johnpowell's avatar

Yeah. I have had soda maybe 10 times in the last 20 years and that is usually from being on a car trip with my sister and her grabbing drinks and forgetting I don’t drink soda. And I don’t eat, cake, brownies, candy, or ice cream anymore.

So mom makes manicotti or lasagna for my b-day now instead of a cake. I destroy that stuff.

filmfann's avatar

85 & 87.
I know this from referencing when my father died in 83.

johnpowell's avatar

And if people wonder why I banned sweets. My grandma is in a wheelchair and blind due to type 2 diabetes. 5’3” and 250 pounds. Loves cake.

My mom had a brain tumor that gave her constant migraines. She was drinking two liters of pepsi a day since that helped with the headaches (caffeine). Ten years of two liters a day. They only found about the diabetes when they did tests to find out if it was safe to remove ¼ of her skull and remove a lemon sized tumor from her brain.

After the tumor was removed she could stop drinking Pepsi. She lost 60 pounds in about 3 months. Yes, soda is that bad for you. The only change to her diet was not drinking Pepsi.

But it is to late for her. The type 2 has already fucked her and in a few months they are going to remove her left eye. I have already called the DMV asking about I get her license revoked.

So fuuuuck Pepsi, Coke, and so on.

ucme's avatar

February 27th 1996 – 17:04 – 7lbs 4oz

July 13th 1999 – 9:03 – 6lbs 13oz

Any Dad worthy of the name should have these printed on their minds as a matter of course.

flutherother's avatar

Yes, of course.

JLeslie's avatar

I don’t have kids, but as I get older I remember less, and part of it is laziness, and part of it is not having to recall certain things for many many years so then it’s hard for me to remember. Plus, whatever deterioration I have going on in my brain.

I’m pretty good with birthdays, but I can see how a man might be more likely to forget, because most likely the wife took care of remembering birthdays and how old kids and relatives are. He probably hasn’t had to recall the year, so it’s not locked into his brain well.

I still agree it’s a little surprising to me a parent would not remember the year, but I don’t judge the guy for not remembering. He was probably busy working, and stressing out about supporting his family as a young man, and only so much can fit in our brains.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

My wife takes the time to write out cards for everyones birthday, even on my side of the family. I remember her birthday and year as well as our anniversary. I’m pretty sure I would remember the birth year of my kids if I had any. Beyond that and my wife reminds me (she has a master calendar) At any given day there is about a 50% chance it will be someones birthday I am supposed to remember. Sorry but I usually have larger issues to deal with. I don’t care when people forget mine for the record.

janbb's avatar

@cookieman You’re round and soft and squishy and you know your kid’s birthday. Clearly a woman! Where do you put the penis?

cookieman's avatar

“_I have noticed that most men I know, including my brothers, do not know when their kids’ birth year is._”

“_it’s a shame men don’t think it is up to them to remember their kids birth year and sometimes even the date._”

“_Maybe it’s because they haven’t filled out reams and miles of paperwork since the day their children were born._”

“_while lots of men will take the task of being a father very seriously they are not as vested in it as a woman is._”

May I posit the idea that y’all are simply spending time with the wrong men?

cookieman's avatar

@janbb: That depends. Where would you like me to put it. :^)

janbb's avatar

^^ We’ll tawk.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Man, I had my ex’s social security number memorized for the longest time, even 10 years after the divorce. Pretty sure he has never had any clue what mine is. Same with Rick today. But, I’m the one dealing with the IRS, forms, bills, blah blah blah.

chyna's avatar

@cookieman oh I totally agree! But you are taken!

janbb's avatar

@chyna And if he becomes available, I get first bite!

LuckyGuy's avatar

Yep. 28 and 30 years after I was born.

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