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If someone asked you over to "Netflix and chill" what would your expectations be?

Asked by janbb (54209points) 1 month ago

I’ll tell my story after some responses come in. (It’s not as interesting as one might think.)

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RedDeerGuy1's avatar

Pop, pizza , wings and comedy.

ragingloli's avatar

Watching “Batman and Robin”.

elbanditoroso's avatar

Watch a video and sip wine.

stanleybmanly's avatar

Junkfood & reruns of Newhart.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Alcohol and movies, perhaps more if conditions and gender are right.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

@chyna wanna netflix and chill??~

Tropical_Willie's avatar

Cold pizza and old reruns of Tim the Toolman !!!

ucme's avatar

Table tennis & a snowball fight.

flutherother's avatar

It depends who is asking and how they ask but I’d just expect a quiet night in.

JLeslie's avatar

Snacks, and gabbing while watching some shows. I’d offer to bring some sort of food thing. I’d ask if it’s just us or a group.

Is it a friend, or is it someone you’re dating? That might make a difference. I’m just looking at the answers above. When I read the Q I assumed a platonic friend. I’d never assume alcohol would be there. I don’t get drunk to watch TV. I don’t drink at all though, so what do I know. It wouldn’t surprise me if the other person (people) had a beer or a glass of wine though, seeing that so many people do drink when relaxing at home.

canidmajor's avatar

At this point in my life, it just means to bring a sweater, the house is cold. :-P

Obviously, @chyna has a funner life than me.

Patty_Melt's avatar

My seventeen year old daughter told me it is code for sex.

If somebody said it to me though, I would expect to see movies, because I no longer look like my avatar picture.

stanleybmanly's avatar

What is wrong with you girls? Why the necessity to dash our torrid fantasies of ravishing you all?

ragingloli's avatar

@stanleybmanly
If it is any consolation to you, I still do look like my profile picture.

cookieman's avatar

It is slang for having sex. I’ve heard my students say it for a few years now.

So…Penguin, you get lucky?

stanleybmanly's avatar

@ragingloli You in particular deserve “special” attention!

janbb's avatar

@cookieman Nope.

Here’s the story. My congregation holds a fundraising auction every Spring and different groups and committees donate themed baskets. I suggested that the Board which I’m on put together a “Netflix and Chill” basket with DVDs, popcorn, etc. The Board President told me that that phrase is slang for a booty call.

cookieman's avatar

Board President is correct. So, what did you say?

Patty_Melt's avatar

@stanleybmanly, you can still palm date with my pic. It will love you always.

jca2's avatar

@janbb: Just call it a “Movie Night” basket.

canidmajor's avatar

Call it “Netflix and Chips”. Include irritating crunchy foods.

Dutchess_III's avatar

@janbb pretty savvy Christian Board President you have there. I sure didn’t know that it was slang for sex! Things that make you go “hmmmm.”

But now that I do know I have to say that if I was asked to come “Netflix and chill” by someone I was already dating and sexually active with, I’d be cool with it. It would be fun.

If it was a guy I had just started seeing and I thought that it was his way of proposing sex for the first time, I’d consider that pretty tacky and I’d refuse and probably reconsider any future relationship with him.

janbb's avatar

@Dutchess_III Agree but just to correct one thing, Unitarianism is not specifically Christian at this time. It is for anyone.

@jca2 Yes, that’s what we came up with – something like that..

seawulf575's avatar

Someone of the opposite sex? I would expect Netflix and just hanging out. Snacks or a pizza would not be out of the question.

Dutchess_III's avatar

But you have to know that is “code” for “having sex” @seawulf575. I think that is something that escaped my foolish self for a long time. Guy would say, “Want to come to my place and listen to music?” I took that literally. I didn’t realize it was “code” for “have sex.” I was naive.

ragingloli's avatar

Yeah.
Always imagine Bill Cosby inviting you.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Too late now!

seawulf575's avatar

@Dutchess_III I never played those games. Yeah, some guys do and some women fall for it. But for example, my first date with my wife was “not a date”. We went and did our last minute Christmas shopping, we had a drink, we ate a pizza, we wrapped presents, we watched a movie and I rubbed her feet for her. But I did not expect anything. And she was adamant it was “not a date”. In her mind that meant there was no obligations. I understood that and accepted it. I was happy to spend time with her. Before I met her I dated a girl that was much more of a nympho, but even then, if I invited her over for a movie, if I had other intentions I would add something like “and whatever else we can get into”. That let her know my intentions right up front. I never had much use for codes…they always seemed to cause problems with the guys I knew that used them or believed in them.

Patty_Melt's avatar

The code is not about fooling your date. The chicks are in on it. The point is fooling parents. We are not supposed to know.

I know now, because my daughter tells me these things to make me feel dumb.

Pinguidchance's avatar

@janbb I suggested that the Board which I’m on put together a “Netflix and Chill” basket with DVDs, popcorn, etc.

I’m relieved that Jan found out with enough time to redesign her basket.

Dutchess_III's avatar

@Patty_ the chicks aren’t automatically aware of what it means. Someone, under some circumstance, told them. It’s very conceivable that a girl could be asked if she wanted to come “Netlix and Chill” and she saw it simply as a chance to hang out and get to know this guy she was kind of interested it, and didn’t know it was a euphemism for sex. But then she found out very quickly. THEN she knows. And now you, as a parent, knows, too. And now I know.

Patty_Melt's avatar

Duch, no, honey, everybody knows, except some grown ups. There is no date trickery involved. It is a commonly used expression with youth, like groovy of the 60s.

Dutchess_III's avatar

How does your daughter know? Was she born knowing it? Or did someone tell her?

My point is, it is possible that she could have heard the phrase for the very first time from some guy. What reason would she have to think it was a euphemism for sex?

Patty_Melt's avatar

I could go on with you forever, and we would get nowhere. It is what it is. She has had the same boyfriend for over two years.
Crap like that kids learn from each other.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Exactly. They learn it from each other. That means there was a point when they didn’t know what it means, and would have no reason to think it means anything other than what it literally says, as in @janbb‘s case. But now she knows and now I know.

Patty_Melt's avatar

And you learned it from friends, not a man with a hidden agenda, which is exactly how most teen girls learn it.
It is not meant to be a lure, but a cover for a couple, planning a tryst together.

JLeslie's avatar

I learn something new every day.

Dutchess_III's avatar

You weren’t very clear @Patty_Melt. Were you saying that most teen girls learn from friends, or they learn from a male with a hidden agenda?

Patty_Melt's avatar

If you read all my posts on this thread, I should think I have been quite clear.

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