How loud is your personal demanding critic & how do you close it down?

As loud as it takes to motivate me to do better.

I like to keep it balanced around the precept of inverse proportionality to the strident obloquy I muster against the mistakes of others.

But the real answer is pretty noisy so I temper the paranoia with advice to be gentle with myself and others, try to learn from the mistakes and in the interim get on with the ironing.

Deafening and I have yet to figure out how to shut it down.

Sometimes very loud and sometimes barely there. It comes and goes. I lock it away in a box for a while when it gets too loud. Maybe that’s a bad thing.

I has been about two years since mine shrugged, and moved away.

I outgrew that in the 1967 Summer of Love.

I do some work on a goal that is simple to accomplish. Like reading a book. Or cleaning my apartment. Or solving some ones else’s problems. Anything to get my mind off of my self and into helping others. Barring that I eat meat and guzzel pop.

Loud and demanding I do better, try harder and achieve.
Shutting it down is not an option or desired as it encompasses my moral code, religion as well as my conscious.

I’m a bit of a perfectionist sometimes, that’s balanced out however due to my self deprecating sense of humour.
All good & healthy competition…never let me down yet!

It used to be consuming. My capacity for self loathing and critical self thought has always been prolific. Sometimes I’m thankful for that, it drove me deep into learning about myself and gave me a good sense of who I am maybe at a younger age than a lot of people come to find those things because I have spent 25 years on an obsessive quest to stop being such a “bad person.” These days I realize it does me more harm than good, it’s worn out its usefulness and I’m learning to give myself a lot of grace.

@ANef_is_Enuf I can appreciate that, we all have to learn to love ourselves.
We’re the only constant in our lives, can’t exactly take a break can we?

Shouting is a sign of loss of control.

That voice is quiet.
But cutting.