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At what age or period in your life did you struggle the most?

Asked by raum (7851points) 1 month ago from iPhone

And at what age or period in your life were you the most stable?

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seawulf575's avatar

I think I struggled the most from about the age of 12 until about the age of 18, a little less from 18 to 20 and then again when I got divorced about 15 years later. Probably the most stable my life has been was since I got married the second time. Having someone actually caring in your corner does a lot to add stability.

JLeslie's avatar

Hard to pick just one. I guess my top pick is in my mid and late 40’s. The struggle was mostly because my husband was in a job he didn’t like, and also he was laid off during that time. Additionally, I became more fearful to make decisions and that added to the whole thing. We fought a lot!

Another time was in my early teens. I was on and off depressed and that was very difficult, but then you get older and everything is relative I guess.

I broke up with a long term boyfriend when I was 21 and it was devastating. I had horrible anxiety, physically ill from it. I should have taken a college term off, but I didn’t. I ruined my GPA. It was horrific for months. Severe grieving.

Demosthenes's avatar

I was probably least stable around 14–15 when I was realizing that my homosexuality was for certain but I did not want to accept it in myself yet. I also had some doubt at the beginning of college, in 2009, when I questioned what I was doing with my life and the path I wanted to go down (I was also affected by homesickness and the abrupt change of starting college).

Mimishu1995's avatar

My high school days. It was three years of isolation not totally, I did have some people who weren’t mean to me, but they weren’t close to me either. Somehow the kids at school just decided that I was a freak and I shouldn’t be included in anything. Even some teachers were especially mean to me. There was a girl who wanted to be my friend, but in the end she was just doing that to “change” me and earn a reputation of being the saint who reformed a sinner. People either thought I didn’t exist or I was an annoyance.

Things started to get better in college, when people started to care less about being “cool”. I got to meet some genuinely good people who I’m still in contact with today. This was also the time when I became involved with Fluther. The people that I met were supportive enough for me to finally realize that some toxic people I was with weren’t worth my time.

I think my current time is the most stable time of my life compared to other periods before. I have a good support system, knowledge about the world, and the most life experience. I don’t think my past self would have imagined life to be this way. I used to hear talk about how high school was the best time in one’s life, and how life would get worse and people would get meaner, and I have never believed it. Looking back, high school was the worst time of my life and people just get tired of high school drama as they grow up. I have no nostalgia for high school in any way.

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