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Should I block this girl?

Asked by Cindy1302 (553points) 1 month ago

I met this girl online a couple years ago on playstation. We play often but don’t talk often. Last night I got an invite to a party with her and a friend of hers. She sort of jokingly kept calling him dumb ass and idiot. I said “well I doubt he’s a dumb ass”. She didn’t say anything. Another time he asked “why are you so mean to me?”. She said “because you’re an idiot lol”. I said “your ARE mean”. She was just like “I’m only meant I people who have wronged me. That’s why I’m not mean to you”. She just seems so toxic. I was thinking of blocking her on playstation and Facebook without any warning just because that would be going out of my comfort zone. I would feel kind of bad though because about a year ago her mom passed away from covid and she’s just really depressed, but I understand that’s not a reason to call people names. Should I block her or what?

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Inspired_2write's avatar

Since you never know whom you are really talking too and that everything that is stated is or not true and could very well be possibly of a set up by a prevert or scammer .

If you already know that you don’t like this persons atitude etc..block her and thus teach people what you will not accept online or otherwise.

chyna's avatar

Sure. You don’t owe anyone anything.

si3tech's avatar

@Cindy1302 If you think she is toxic, block her.

Jeruba's avatar

@Cindy1302, it sounds like what you really want is an all-purpose guide to life, a yardstick to measure your own behavior.

There are several out there, most of them associated with some philosophy or religion or moral teaching. This is a pretty good one that has been around for centuries in various forms: Treat others as you would want them to treat you. There’s also the Ten Commandments, the Eightfold Path of Buddhism, and more.

There’s also the version, I think from Karen Armstrong, that says ”Don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you.”

A wise teacher could help you find a path you can trust. And a therapist could help you work your way through your own obstacles. This might work out much better for you than trying to get online strangers to pass judgment on everything you do or think of doing.

Samantha4One's avatar

Well, although you don’t owe her anything, but she sounds kind of depressed, in psychology 101, it is stated that “a mentally depressed person can harm other’s feelings just to hide the fact their own feelings are messed up.”

I would suggest that she talks to a therapist. Since you’ve known her for couple of years online, as a kind gesture, if she’s nice to you then you can talk to her about seeing a therapist. She might’ve been a nice girl if not for what happened with her mother, and you don’t know much about her family situation, maybe she isn’t treated well in the family… but that’s just my assumption.

But then again you don’t have to do anything at all, since you don’t owe her anything. Blocking her or not is totally up to you. My suggestion would be that you block her since you don’t know her personally.

elbanditoroso's avatar

You know what you should do. Obviously.

What I don’t understand is why you feel the need for our validation and approval. Your instincts seem generally pretty good.

I think you need to start acting for yourself and not asking everyone else’s opinion. Otherwise you will never grow as a person.

SergeantQueen's avatar

I think you are too sensitive.

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