Why are guys such jerks?

Oh dear, I don’t have the answer, but here is a great big hug!

Don’t worry about it… it’s just a stage in life… after that people sometimes change and guys (at least some of them) start growing up. All that matters is that you find happiness elsewhere. Music is the best… try to find other people outside your school, neighbors, go to yoga classes or anything else that can get your attention other than superficial teenagers that lack maturity… you’ll be healthier in your mind than if you pay attention to them.

I do other activities, I just feel so alone

Lurve to you comedian. I was much like you describe in high school, but after high school things change. The stuff that is so huge now will be so small to you someday. It doesnt help for the here and now, but boys are bad, and I am sure you rock.

Have you told your friends about moving back to Ceshire yet?

Read this. You are not alone.
http://music.msn.com/music/hotgossip/11–19-08_quickies/?gt1=28102

Hey, don’t get down. We’re not all bad. Keep up hope. I’ve always tried to put a girl before myself. Believe me I can’t be the only one. :) It’s going to be okay.

apparently – and this is from multiple guy friends – if a guy likes you he will start to, “put you down,” so you become insecure and he is more likely to get a positive response from you when he asks you out. Seems childish to me, but that’s men…they are not so in touch with their feeling all the time…good news is – they are predictable, though.

Guys may think your pretty, they even may like you, but if you are not seen as socially acceptable, they are not going to date you, i.e., you’ve got to add something to their social currency to be date-able.

I think that’s the dumbest thing in the world, seen it a million times.

Ah, Alfreda, I see what you are saying. I think I hear a big sucking sound.

If we were in the same timezone i’d ask u out for sure, i think u r intelligent and definitely u have a fine sense of humor, im not driven by looks, au contraire, im mature enough to appreciate other things in a woman, that will change as time goes by (we all grow up in the end), your prince charming will knock at your door one of these days so be patient and if one of my constant travells takes me to your city, we will go out for dinner, you are right most guys are jerks, we can’t see a wonderful girl at first sight, im pretty sure ur mom is right, by the way, where do u live :)

Take solace in the fact that college will be better. High school is big now, but compared to later, it can be a minor footnote, if you let it.

No, I’m not bitter. Really. I’m not. Stop looking at me that way. K. I’m going over here now.

Boy, high school was definitely the worst!!!! I was lonelier than a martian lander. It got so depressing. I mean really, really depressing. Also, unfortunately, no matter what people say, looks are a key attraction. It’s built into us. However, you can be sure there are probably more boys who have the same problem you do.

You probably don’t notice them. You probably only see the attractive guys—the popular ones who are big in sports, too. They’re the ones that all the girls cluster around. They can afford to be jerks.

You may not notice the less attractive, less confident, shorter boys. They’re shy. Afraid to talk to you, because you might reject them (they are, after all, not very good looking). Maybe they have few friends. Even if they do have friends, they don’t treat the girls like status objects.

I know it is not popular, these days, as we seem to revert to a more regressive era, but go ahead. Make the first move. Talk to them. Persist. They may be so confused the first few times you talk to them, that they act like idiots. I know, it takes guts to approach. That’s the problem these boys have, too. I never had a date in high school. It was much too frightening for me.

While I was then and am now a loser as far as status is concerned, I’ve got many talents, and I’m not doing too badly. I even have a couple of beautiful kids who don’t look like they are mine if you look at how cute they are. Somehow, my kids took my mishapen visage, straightened it all out, and made it look good!

My point is that things can be ok after a while. Things are often get better in college, although that can seem so far away. After college, they slowly, slowly improve. Hang in there. Your time will come. You’ll even have the last laugh. Your brains will finally be appreciated when you enter the work world. The jocks, unless they do very very well on the field, often end up struggling through life. High school turned out to be their finest moment.

Hugs to you…

im not a jerk dont assume all guys are the same theres someone out there for u just wait! :)

Testosterone

@johnson: I’m not assuming that. But 98% of the guys at my school have convinced me that most of them are.

See this is why I like older men. This is why I like Tim Curry, Keith Allen, Sean Connery, Jonathan Crombie, or Dale Hensley. I like them because in my book they have all matured. Now I can’t say that for sure, since I haven’t met them. Well I’ve met Jon and Dale and they are AMAZINGLY nice. But all the guys my age or around it are jerks to me. So I resort to older men.

I agree, older men rock!

i know what you are talking about. its like as soon as one guy stops liking you they all turn on you. i feel ignored everyday. at my old school i only had guys friends, we hung out all the time and the girls hated me from drama in the past. now at my new school its just impossible to find a good guy friend. its tough. i wish i could write advice, but reading your question, i badly had to respond because we are in the same awful situation. homecoming is so lame, im in high school and i can already see myself looking back later and wondering why i even gave a shit. good luck!

Thanks and welcome

I just ended up asking a guy from my church. He is really nice to me (I guess there is one good guy out there(and toooootally hot)) too.