Dose a father really have any rights?

Fathers have the same rights as Mothers. If you are both “good” people, you should talk and try to work it out yourselves. You don’t have to settle in a court if you two can work it out.

Of course you have legal rights. Get legal counsel if you two can’t work out an arrangement on your own.

of course you do. where do you live? how old are the kids? can you continue living together for the children but having seperate lives romantically? it’s all very context specific, but i wish you luck..it is not an easy road ahead from what i’ve experienced.

My second and current husband was able to get full custody of his 3 boys shortly after he divorced his first wife. SHE was the one that got every-other-weekend visits and had to pay child support…not that she did! I had custody of my son from a first marriage and we’ve been trying to trade our kid, the youngest in on something. No one will take us up on the offer. Geeze, five boys! Is it any wonder I’m crazy??

I agree with you that paternity rights tend to be egregiously unfair. These will vary by state (or country), so you will need to do some research and may need to hire a lawyer.

Also, not that it’s my business, but please make sure that whatever actions you take are done with your kids’ best interests in mind. The mother of your children probably feels as strongly as you do about having access to her children.

You have had children with this woman. I would do whatever it takes to try and stay together for the sake of your children. And you say she is a good person. Go together to a marriage counselor and see, first of all, if you two can work out your differences. You may just be in a difficult time of your marriage. It will be better for your children in the long run if you can work it out. And it will probably be better for the two of you as well.

Fathers have rights just like mothers do. Sadly, based on what I’ve heard, it can be harder for a father to exert his rights and win primary custody versus the mother doing so. I would imagine a great lawyer could help you a lot with this issues, so I advise you to begin seeking counsel for this issue. Even if you and your wife intend to have a clean break, you will need to fight hard for the children – people change, maybe she will change and want her children, and the court may side with her because she is their mother. I would also urge you to seek a marriage counselor if you have not already done so – if you love your children, it’s up to you to provide them with the best opportunities to grow, and there is nothing in your post to suggest that she is a bad mother for them. In fact, there is very little in your post to suggest any details about the situation, which is why I urge you to seek professional counseling to help with your problems and to build a solid future for everyone. Good luck.