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I need advice about a relationship I am having?

Asked by Moxy (182points) October 30th, 2009

I am in a relationship with a married man who happens to be a teacher and I dont want his wife to find out about us. How do I overcome this?

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pinkparaluies's avatar

Thats easy. You just break up with him.

gemiwing's avatar

Figure out why you feel the need for an unavailable man. Why do you feel that he is a good pick?

MrItty's avatar

Why would you want a relationship with a person who’s proving, on a daily basis, that he’s unfaithful? If he’s cheating on his wife with you, he’s obviously going to cheat on you with someone else.

bagelface's avatar

Definitely break up. Why would you do that to yourself? Or to another person (his wife)?

whatthefluther's avatar

I agree with the others, above. It’s just a matter of time until his wife finds out and rightly kicks his ass into the gutter. Let me guess that you will no longer be interested in him at that point, because, well, he’ll be available, right? See ya…..Gary/wtf

jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities's avatar

Have a kid with him. Then he’ll be stuck right where you want him.

Either that or you just break up and date someone who is available. It’s your call.

FutureMemory's avatar

Relationship? More like an affair.

dpworkin's avatar

Fluther, predictably Victorian.

cookieman's avatar

^^ Yes, but I look so good in the wig and corsett. ^^

I would tell him you love him (assuming you do), but you can’t be with him until he (at least) seperates from his wife.

Then decide how long you’re willing to wait.

virtualist's avatar

@moxy What specifically do you want to overcome?

Are you an adult?

mowens's avatar

Break up with him. No matter what happens, you will never be able to trust him. He has already proved that he can not be with one woman.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

WHAT? You’re worried about feeling bad about screwing another woman’s husband? The best way to get over it is to turn pro.

CMaz's avatar

Why does the word doormat come to mind?

PandoraBoxx's avatar

In every marriage, there’s his side, her side, and the truth. Whatever he’s telling your to justify cheating on his wife, isn’t the truth. It may be part of the truth, but not the truth. The reality is, his wife is married to someone that is not trustworthy. There is something really nasty and ugly about betraying someone’s trust and confidence. You need to think really hard about why you want to be a party to that. No good ever comes out of a relationship that has, as it foundation, deceit and betrayal of trust.

You sound, from your profile, incredibly young. You will never feel good about this decision, or yourself, ever.

pinkparaluies's avatar

hah. there are three sides to every story. yours, mine, and what the truth is

trailsillustrated's avatar

don’t be stalkery don’t call him at home or text him, let him worry about the wife. hope your getting something out of this..

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