How do you solve lazyness?

Maybe he is not lazy, but rather he is not a good morning person. You cant really compare two sons, each have different habits. Perhaps he is less active because he does not enjoy the same things as the other son? Like sport for example.

Maybe you should set an example for your son…go for a bike ride or a run with him in the mornings…drag him out of bed and YOURself if you have to

If that’s not your or your sons thing, you could try bribing him for a while…If he gets up and going before a certain time, three weeks in a row you will take him to the football, or something like that. (if you do something for 21 days it becomes a habit)

Once his body is used to getting up and going earlier, it will be automatic.

waking up hasn’t been rewarding for your son.

Is there anything bothering your youngest so much he feels the only way to deal with it is by staying in bed & just avoiding the challenges of the day!? Just a thought… :-/

What time does he go to bed? It sounds as though he is sleep deprived.

I doubt that can be solved. Problems waking up are mainly metabolic, and that my friend either changes on its own or it doesn’t.

Fellow hard of waking here, and i found it is easier to wake up if you have something to look forward to in the morning. School isn’t exactly that.

When he goes to bed is he really going to bed or is he texting/gaming/chatting for all hours into the night? Don’t allow a TV in his room.

Ask him to join you in a morning activity. (even though “you are lazy”) It can be something easy like “Let’s go to Denny’s for early morning breakfast tomorrow. We want to get there before X:00 so we can beat the crowds. ” Tell him the day before so he knows he has to get up in the morning.
The next morning, make sure he is up in time, and give him one reminder and then just go as planned with no fuss. If he is with you, great! If not he will be thinking about it. Try again next week.
I did a similar thing for one of my kids. It really hurt me to leave him behind but he learned.

Lately, the weather here has become much more springtime-like, and it gets light earlier. I’ve noticed that practically overnight I have become much better at getting up in the morning.
Curious how just the time of year can make me so much more energetic.

Is your son like this all year long?

The youngest goes at 9 to bed and the oldest even at 10. They both (should) get up at 7 in the morning. I don’t notice any differences at other seasons and he acted ‘like this’ since ever (me too btw)

Have you tried changing your/his diet around? With a little more carbohidrates at dinner, maybe? It’s just a wild guess but they’re supposed to give you energy, so maybe it’ll help…

On a completely different note, how did you make that avatar?

I’d say both of you need to get to bed earlier and get active. I suspect the TV is a bigger part of your lives than it needs to be so find some activities that you both would enjoy.

They need more activity during the day, that way there tired and fall asleep sooner, oh and dont let them watch t.v at bedtime, this only stimulates the brain.If they go to sleep sooner, and get enough sleep there should be no problem getting up. I have 3 boys myself. It can be a challenge.

@Thammuz
I wouldn’t recommend eating lots of carbohydrates at dinner.
You have little use for them when you go to bed, they’ll just be stored away and make you gain weight where you don’t want any. A carb-rich breakfast would be more helpful. (Try oatmeal.)

I increase my level of activity. They might need to increase their levels of activity also.

@Fyrius Unless he has breakfast in bed i doubt that’ll solve the problem, seeing how he doesn’t get out of bed to hve breakfast to begin with…

Maybe if it’s a really, really tasty breakfast.

I remember that when I was a little kid, I was perfectly willing to get up godawfully early if there would be cartoons on TV. Under any other circumstances I’d remain glued to the sheets until the cows come home, if it were up to me.
In other words, it’s like you said, having something to look forward to helps a lot.

It may not be lazyness at all – some people are just better in the morning than others.

Also, do either of you take a Multi-Vitamin? I found a huge difference in my son when I started him on a Vitamin each day, and extra Zinc and Dolomite – he seemed much more “alert” at home and school, and did better in school too.

My daughter who is 12, seems to feel sluggish when she drinks milk – we have cut that out of her diet and she is feeling better and not as tired all the time.

I think you might have to keep trying different things to see what works for you and your son.

you can’t force people to be what they are not

@Snowbarbieblue… you are right. because i myselfe am not a morn. person no matter how much sleep i get. I have to just jump up and get moving, once im up i am fine its just the act of getting out of bed. but my hair sleeps till at least 10am lol for some reason it wont work right untill then.

I think above and beyond any other ‘corrective’ measures you choose to take….DROP THE WORD “LAZY” right now!

People DO tend to live up to the expectations assigned them.

I’d stick with positive m otivational tactics and never, EVER, call him lazy….not EVER, again!

P.S. It is also ‘notmal’ for kids and adolescents going through growth spurts to require lots of extra sleep. Kids grow at night, just like plants! lolol

He is on the verge of his puberty so this might explain a good amount of his ‘laziness.’

I have trouble getting up in the morning too, with me it’s also the act of getting out of bed.
And I’m also fairly lazy. But when I start on something I usually finish it. And when I have activity to look forward too, it’s alot easier to get out of bed!
I guess I’m not the one to be answering this bc I’m lazy too, but you could try to give him something to look forward too. Even when it’s his favourite expensive cereal or something..

It’s more likely a question if your son is picking up the idea that he is lazy or not as well preferred as the older “go get ‘em” son that you have. He may not wake up early now, but the way you feel about him is the way he may feel he actually is. A simple change in your ideas about him, without any forceful handling would make a difference. Unless you want a resentful son later down the road.

I’d look in the mirror before judging a small child over what appears to be laziness.

Do you desire to be one of those dads who son hates him… I’m afraid of the other euphemisms you may apply to him as he gets older…

It sounds like this son is reminding you of the very thing within yourself that you don’t like. Kids are good about providing parents this opportunity to develop some self-awareness and self-acceptance of their own imperfections.

Instead of comparing this son to the other and instead of setting yourself up to be the person that disapproves of the sleepy boy..why not get on the same team with him by sharing your lifelong struggle with being slow to rise. Ask him what he attributes his struggle to. Ask him what he thinks would help. Share with him the things you have tried that have not.

In other words, make this something you share and try to mutually solve rather than having it become a bone of contention between you.

The cosmos often presents us with a child who seems perfectly designed to highlight any of our own unresolved self-loathing. It’s your opportunity to embrace and love yourself and your child unconditionally…and sometimes it’s the last chance you get.

Fuck. I was going to answer this, but Merriment got here, first. Run along, Merriment, so that I can offer my thoughts without you scarfing them in your remote viewing :)

getting up at the drop of a hat is a skill that can be learned. i’ve learned it myself. it takes practice. i can’t remember what site i read it on but it’s the only wake up trick that ever worked for me as I too am a hard-to-riser.

set an alarm to wake you up an 30 mins after you fall asleep. When it goes off, get up, and go do whatever you would normally have to do next in the morning. (In my case, it was walking to the bathroom to brush my teeth).. uh.. (i wouldn’t brush my teeth for the exercise, by the way, but i’d make it there.) then you can go back to bed. The alarm should go off again in a nother 10 – 15 minutes, however long it took to fall asleep again.. repeat proceedure.

Then go to bed!

In the morning, when your real alarm goes off.. just follow the proceedure and get your ass out the door. Do this for a week. That week you would have endured more instant get ups than you have shitty get ups, thereby creating the habit of waking up quickly.

This was the best thing that worked for me. Try it and let me know if it does the same for you. After this, I set it in my schedule to do this practice waking up at least once a month just to keep myself in the habit.

@phillis – LOL! and snort! owie it hurts when I laugh :)

I am the same way. I am super lazy. But I am also a clinical insomniac. I was recently put on sleeping pills and they’re helping a little, but I don’t think I will ever be a morning person or someone who enjoys moving. It also has to do with mild sleep apnea as well. Go for a sleep study and see if you have any reason in your sleep to be tired. If it is, it’s likely that your son could have inherited it.

diet,excercise, mental stimualtion (activities, hobbies,etc), emotional/physical support from family .

I’m pretty sure it’s not that much physical. I notice a lot of difference when he has to do something he likes or he has to do something he dislikes. When he doesn’t like it, he puts a lot of effort in all kind of excuses just for not have to do it ;-)
When I compare this to myself, indeed I notice the same behavior. I do a lot of thinking about it but get starting? No way. Always postponing. Very weird because I do want things to happen (apparently someone else got to do it ;-)).