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What do you think is your reputation on fluther? What do you want it to be?

Asked by wundayatta (58635points) August 11th, 2010

It is going to be really hard to be honest about this. It is also complex because different groups of people think differently about the same thing.

I think I have a reputation for being honest and disclosing a lot. I think some people think I disclose too much and that it is a kind of attention grabbing thing.

I’m not sure what people think about my jokes. I get the sense that some find them funny, but most find them annoying or tiresome. The same with my shaggy dog tales.

I think some people think I am wise, but that view is by no means universally shared. Other people worry about me—and are always looking for signs of illness. I also think people, in general, are wary of arguing with me. I don’t know if that’s because they are afraid I’ll flip out or if they think I’ll give them a hard time or if it’s because the stuff I say is hard to argue with a lot of the time.

What would I like my reputation to be? I wish I were kinder and more lovable. I wish more people thought I was funny. I wish I wasn’t seen as so volatile or unstable.
Please do not respond to anything I or anyone else says. I want to hear people assess themselves if they can. I don’t want anyone critiqued or attacked or gainsaid. This is something you have to be willing to be vulnerable to do. Please respect that.

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mrentropy's avatar

I haven’t got the faintest idea.

Seaofclouds's avatar

I think I am seen as being caring and helpful. I’ve never really tried to be funny, so I doubt anyone sees me that way. I probably seem to be too serious sometimes.

I would like to be seen a bit more relaxed than I come off, but it’s hard to show that side sometimes when I mostly just answer questions and give advice.

Jude's avatar

I am not sure.

Your_Majesty's avatar

I’m no one right now. That is why I try as hard as I could to be someone.
I have a feeling that most people think that I’m a lurve-bitch,but that is their opinion and there’s nothing I could do about that. I’m a complex individual,usually misunderstood by other people. I’m also seen as opportunistic and pragmatic(yes,I am) person but that because I’m not a hypocrite person and I prefer to show my bad side rather than my good side,letting it to be discovered by other people.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I don’t know. I have only been in a couple of really heated debates with other members so hopefully my reputation isn’t too bad. I’m not part of the popular crowd but I think I am here enough for people to know who I am.

talljasperman's avatar

I don’t know. but it’s somewhere in the positive

Jude's avatar

Sometimes, I may come off a bitchy, but, I have no tolerance for assholes.

I also think that I come off as genuine.

chyna's avatar

To some, I come off as a nice person most of the time. On the very few times I come off as bitchy, my fluther friends pm me to see what is wrong, to see if I’m having a bad day. But mostly, I don’t think I’m noticed at all.

perspicacious's avatar

I have no clue

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

I hope that I come across as a gentleman. On other sites, I had a reputation as a nasty debater and drama queen; I’ve tried to stay away from both of those things here. I’ve have had more success with the former, maybe coming out of depression will help me minimize the latter. In debate I now try to restrict myself to topics of which I am truly knowledgeable and, if the debate is going nowhere, to make my point and walk away; I won’t resort to ad hominum attacks. If I feel that I may have offended anyone, I’m quick to apologize.

Trance24's avatar

Aside from the people I know closely on fluther I am more or less known more for being uber’s girlfriend. I also tend to be less active on fluther than he does, therefore less known.

CMaz's avatar

I don’t really care. I think I am great. All that matters to me. ;-)

Ok, sometimes I am a douche. And, I like it!

ucme's avatar

Utterly apathetic towards how anyone on here may view me. Words on a screen baby, words on a screen!

BoBo1946's avatar

Depends on the person. There are few here who do not like me. You can always can tell. If i post an answer and this person gives an answer immediately after mine, and the person never give “love lurves,” i can take the hint. But, that is cool, after all, we can only do the best we can with what was given us.

But, like @ucme just said, words on a screen, and in the scheme of things, no big deal. And, no one really knows who these people are by what they write on here.

Coloma's avatar

I think I am seen as I really am.

Humorous, fairly sharp, genuine, easy to get along with with but not afraid to speak my mind.

I just show up as I really am and could care less about winning any popularity contests.

I am here for learning, fun and mental stimulation not to enhance my self image.

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Frenchfry's avatar

I want to be a lurve goddess one day. But ALAS. I am a unknown . Give me time.

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deni's avatar

Well I never really say anything rude so I think/hope that people find me to be a genuinely pleasant person!

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wundayatta's avatar

If we keep on making comments about other people, it could easily discourage others who feel insecure about their reputation from posting.

tinyfaery's avatar

I’m not sure. Mostly I think people see me as harsh but honest, and maybe a brat. I think others would be better able to tell you what my reputation is.

I just hope jellies think I’m an asset to the community in some way. If not, oh well.

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TexasDude's avatar

There are a bunch of people who:

1. Have a crush on me.
2. Think I’m smart
3. Both 1 and 2
4. Think I’m a dumbass hillbilly
5. Both 1 and 4.

I’m okay with that.

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deadhead's avatar

I really don’t care about a reputation.If people read what I wrote and agree or disagree it does’t truly matter to me.I’m writing what I feel at the time,just as they do and that is what matters.An exchange of ideas and wills.People sharing ideas on specific topics that mean something to them personally.People aren’t here to be judged only heard and maybe listened too.As soon as this becomes a court of judgement the whole concept is destroyed!

cookieman's avatar

As in real life, I have no idea what other people think of me or what my “reputation” is.

Reputations, like “legacies” and being a “role model” are best defined by the people that interact with you on a regular basis, IMHO. I think if you spend too much time thinking or worrying about such things, you’re probably not spending enough time on the actual work of doing things that will earn you a good reputation (or salient legacy or status of role model).

wundayatta's avatar

Once again, I ask people to please stay on topic. Comments about other people are not helpful and are not on topic.

Just pretend this question is in General. Obviously, it’s properly categorized in Meta, but I’d put it in General if I could.

Jude's avatar

“I think if you spend too much time thinking or worrying about such things, you’re probably not spending enough time on the actual work of doing things that will earn you a good reputation (or salient legacy or status of role model).”

I agree.

Dog's avatar

[Mod Says] PLEASE respect the request of the asking party and stay on topic.

Please take a moment to re-read the entire question before responding.

AmWiser's avatar

I haven’t a clue what my reputation is on Fluther. I haven’t a clue what I want it to be perceived as either. I like Fluther and that is all that matters. Just call me mellow?

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

I don’t think that I have a reputation. Or, if I do, I have no idea what it is. Hopefully a good one.

El_Cadejo's avatar

Ehhh I think I am generally liked. Id like to think I am seen as a witty intelligent free thinking smart ass, but I know there are others who dont like my sense of humor, think I am extremely blunt, curse way to fucking much, and think I can be a bit of an asshole. And ya know what….. I am totally cool with all of that lol

Love me or hate me, I am who I am.

I try not to spend to much time worrying what others think of me. If I know I am a good person, and I know I am doing the right things, I think thats all that really fucking matters in life…. or fluther in this case.

Buttonstc's avatar

I’m pretty sure I have a reputation for writing lengthy responses :)

Hopefully I’m also perceived as logical because illogical approaches drive me up the wall. I’m pretty sure THAT part has come across.

I’m pretty sure some will find me tedious and skip over much of what I write. That’s fine. I’m certainly not everybodys cup of tea.

I also deeply care about people and animal with problems and I think that most people recognize that.

As for the rest, who knows ?

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Buttonstc's avatar



This above all; to thine own self be true.

And hopefully the content of the responses make them worth reading…... For some.

Certainly not all.

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Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

GQ. I think that I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, that’s for sure. However, I think that whether people like or hate me, they get that I am passionate about my ideas, my beliefs and my expressed words. I don’t think many people share all of my values or ways of living but many people share some of their values with me and that’s enough for us to have a good connection. For those flutherites that I pm with regularly and for those who are my FB friends, they get to see more of me and I think that lets them see me in a much more human way that ‘that Simone De Beauvoir, tsk, tsk’. I also know that people admire me, want to be with me, sexually and otherwise and that fluther isn’t going to be the end of our interaction. Generally speaking, I want to be perceived as a gender non conforming person and though some people have difficulty with validating that, I am always available via PM to answer everyone’s questions about gender, sexuality, open relationships and do so on a regular basis for many people. P.S. I’m one of the people who’s 1 and 2 for @Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard and I’m okay with that.

mrentropy's avatar

I’d be interested to know what other people think of me. You know, for self-esteem.

wundayatta's avatar

@mrentropy That’s a dangerous thing to ask for. You might get hurt. That’s why I didn’t want any of that on this question.

@all…and I appreciate people’s efforts to stay on topic! ;-)

Strauss's avatar

I’m not sure if I have a very strong reputation. I think I present myself as respectful, thoughtful, funny and something of a wise acre, in that order.

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bob_'s avatar

Nice and funny to some, a jokester/buffoon to others. To be honest, I don’t really care.

cockswain's avatar

Liked by some, irritating and condescending to others. I’d guess in general I’m probably viewed as reasonably intelligent, well-informed on some issues, decently funny, and half an asshole. If I wanted to be viewed differently, I’d act differently, so I’m satisfied with whatever the verdict.

downtide's avatar

I think I sometimes come across as smarter than I am. A little too serious as well, maybe. But really I think most people wouldn’t know or remember me anyway.

DominicX's avatar

Not sure, really. People definitely know me as the young gay Stanford student. I hope people find my answers helpful and interesting to read. :)

I remember on we had questions that just said “What do you think of [User]?” For the one about me, most people said I was smart and that was the focus of their answer. That made me feel good. :D

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Aster's avatar

[Removed by Fluther]
I do not know how people think of me, I’m kind of new and Very Old !! I Do try to be honest. I’d like to be seen as honest and open. But I may not be seen that way—yet. I am very informal and leisurely if that makes sense. I keep to myself but I was not like this for most of my life. Several serious losses changed me.

whatthefluther's avatar

If one’s expectations of what others think of them is more important than being perfectly honest, contributions will be skewed toward the desired outcome. If one seeks acceptance and wants to be seen as nice, freindly and approachable, efforts will be made to be “politically correct”, with words carefully chosen, and opinions toned down or even muted. . If one wants to be seen as a controversial ass-hole, efforts will be made to come across as such, actively stirring the shit and pushing “those” buttons. Either way, we are being robbed of honest and sincere opinion.
I don’t “try” to be honest and sincere here. I “am” honest and sincere here and choose to let the chips fall where they may. Since I have never received negative feedback and words specifically directed to me express that my words have some “value” or I am seen as likeable, well, that just reinforces me being open and honest and I am secure and satisfied with that. That doesn’t mean I go out of my way to be heard on every single issue and respond to every word that every other jelly says. When another jelly appears to be bull-shitting or less than honest, I am quick to ignore them, rather than to “call them on it”. I’ve much better things to do with my valuable (to me) time.
See ya….Gary/wtf
PS: I will say that others probably think of me (correctly) as verbose and I am OK with that, sharing that distinction with several other self-admitted fine jellies such as dalepetrie and our OP, wundayatta, from the old school and newer members such as Coloma and Buttonstc, among several others.

MissA's avatar

It would be very pompas of me to imagine or decide what you all think of me. I will say that y’all have made me feel very welcomed.

I enjoy the fluter site, respect many of the fellow flutherers and their questions, answers and comments. And, for those I don’t particularly care for, mainly I steer clear.

augustlan's avatar

I’m not terribly sure, to be honest. I’ve been told “Oh, everyone loves you.”, but I know for certain that’s not true… I’ve got the hate mail to prove it! I hope I’ve got a reputation as a sincere, relatively intelligent, fairly serious but sometimes bawdy individual – because that’s how I view myself.

However I am perceived here is exactly the same as in ‘real life’, though. Of that, I am sure. I yam what I yam.

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YARNLADY's avatar

I can only tell the reputation I hope to have – helpful.

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CMaz's avatar

My reputation is (Off-Topic).

BoBo1946's avatar

My reputation has been deminished on this question! Seems that I’ve a reputation of being too talkative and not being able to stay on the subject. ADD?

ninahenry's avatar

I’m @richardhenry’s sister, I don’t know everything, I like to give advice and I hope I come across as friendly and informative, but that’s subjective.

Sarcasm's avatar

I always figured that the most lasting impression that many Jellies had of me is from a few viewpoints I shared that got some very negative feedback. I feel like a lot of people would consider me to be immature and/or inexperienced in the world, which I certainly can’t argue with.

The people that I regularly chat with? I assume they think I’m a geek who’s way too obsessed with computer games, doesn’t go outside ever, and has some good Wikipedia skills.

Arisztid's avatar

I am pretty much unknown other than a few people from AB who remember me and a few older Jellies who I have interacted with.

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Lightlyseared's avatar

Annoying, argumentative bastard. Annoying, argumentative bastard.

Facade's avatar

I’m not sure. I almost always have no idea what people think about me unless they voice it. But I hope my reputation here is a good one because that is very important to me.

Berserker's avatar

Hmm, I’m not entirely sure that my reputation can be defined much beyond the borders of my passion for horror movies, my nasty swearing habit and my constant non constructive off topicing. I’ve also disclosed my problems with alcohol, maybe that’s in there too. Some kinda boozehounding goth?
If all or some of this is perceived as either generally good or bad, I don’t know, if that’s what you’re asking. I’m sure it’s safe to say that generally, people think it’s all fine, for the most part. At least I hope so haha. I’m also not sure what traits of mine would stick out the most for people. But no I’m not trying to get anyone to start confirming anything, I just really don’t know, it’s kinda hard to tell online what kind of reputation I might have.
I have three close friends on here and I have a good idea of what they think of me, but that’s it.
I’m not sure what I would want my reputation to be, other than what it is now, whatever it is, and weather it’s good or bad. It’s probably better not knowing anyway haha. :D

syz's avatar

My guess would be that I am often considered overly opinionated, too blunt, and rather judgmental.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

Hm. All in all, I really don’t know, or even think that I have much of a reputation here. Just as in real life, I tend to stay quiet until something has seriously offended me – in which case I let it be known to the world how I feel about it and why I think it’s wrong. Because of that, there may very well be many people who think I’m way too opinionated and harsh.

Based on what some people have told me, I think they’re very surprised to learn of my age (especially when I first joined Fluther) because I seem “wise beyond my years” – but in all honesty, I feel kind of stupid saying that. I also believe that some people see and understand my passion, even if my niceness and harshness seem to contradict each other at times (because they do, I myself realize this). I’m just really not sure… Even though I’ve been here for two years now, there’s really only one person that I talk to on a regular basis, and he’s not even on the site at the moment.

stardust's avatar

I’m caring and down to earth. If that comes across, great. If it doesn’t, I’ll still sleep tonight :)

SuperMouse's avatar

Those who like me like me, but those who do not like me do so with quite a passion. For the most part I think I fly under most people’s radar.

escapedone7's avatar

My rawr is worse than my bite. I’m a royal paint in the buttocks.

MacBean's avatar

I’ve never really thought about it… It probably depends pretty heavily on which questions we answer in common. Lately I think I’ve been sticking to movie questions and LGBT/women’s/disabled rights. If I were someone else, my impression of me based on the former would be that I’m a bit of a snob. Based on the latter it would be that I’m a cranky bastard. Heh. I should probably work on that, since neither is true.

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

I honestly have no idea, but I would sure like to know.

gailcalled's avatar

As being Milo’s slave/puppet. I can live with that happily, considering the alternatives.

IBERnineD's avatar

I believe people on Fluther think I’m a nice girl with some quirks. Beyond that I have no clue.

jerv's avatar

I believe that my reputation here is about the same as my reputation in meatspace. I am a smart-ass with a diverse spread of odd knowledge and the ability (and willingness) to be a real pain in the ass. On the flip-side, I can also be quite helpful and generous, especially if it’s concerning technical matters.

I joke around a lot, but sometimes my often dry sense of humor isn’t understood as such. I use sarcasm a bit but don’t always use the ~ tag, Paradoxically, I often don’t pick up on the sarcasm of others. Go figure…

One problem I run into with great regularity is that I find myself getting in heated arguments with somebody who is actually on the same side of an issue I am but arrived there by a different path. The most extreme example I can think of is that there is a certain Texan that I used to butt heads with a lot, though he is far from the only one.

J0E's avatar

I think most people think of me as a guy who answers a lot of questions jokingly, but can be have smart discussions as well. I also believe people see me as someone who cares about this community because of the projects I’ve done.

I also know that I can come across as condescending sometimes. It’s not because I think I’m better than you, it’s because I don’t want to fight with you.

wilma's avatar

I have no idea what you all think of me.
I don’t think you think about me at all really.

chels's avatar

Dunno. You tell me :)

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Arisztid's avatar

I figured I would answer this a bit better. I was a bit crabby last night.

Most people would probably consider me to be intelligent, with a dry sense of humor, and relatively knowledgeable about a plethora of miscellany…. or the sort who has an overinflated opinion of his intellect and knowledge. It has been noted by some that I have an interest in history, the darker side of history, hypothetical history, etc. Most people have picked up that I have things to say about racism.

I am certain that I am also known to be a tad verbose.

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Fly's avatar

My biggest label is probably being @augustlan‘s daughter. Other than that, I’m not sure.

What I do know is that while I do choose my words more carefully on Fluther, virtual Fly is the same as real Fly. Save a recent incident in which I can admit I acted on impulse and was a bit out of line. So any opinions that others may have formed of me on here are most likely the same that they would have in real life.

kenmc's avatar

I don’t know, really. If I do, please inform me.

I’d like to be a jokester that can debate well. But I’m not really either of those.

asmonet's avatar

I think I end up being hated by few, loved by more, seen as childish and wise by different people. But that’s what I know from being told.

I have no idea what people really think of me. I’m fine with it being roughly the same.

Nowadays, I’m probably seen more as a stranger.

I should come back here more. :(

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free_fallin's avatar

I’m likely too new to have a reputation. In chat they sometimes call me Kev2.0

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MissAnthrope's avatar

Somehow I missed this question the first time around. Honestly, even though I’m very self-aware, I really never have any idea how I come across to other people. I’d guess that my Fluther reputation is generally positive, as I get along with most users and rarely get dragged into fights. Um… smart, helpful, nice, occasionally funny? Sexy as hell? (kidding)

As for how I want my reputation on Fluther to be… the above is pretty much what I’m aiming for. Part of me would love to be admired the way I admire so many of my fellow jellies.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. What I feel I am I know many others don’t. I feel my overall reputation is:

A left leaning right of middle conservative, misogynistic, homophobic, pro-business,- pro-life, greedy self-absorbed capitalistic, Bible thumping zealot, with hypocritical aspirations, with a very annoying person maxim. Not that I am any of them I feel, but that is how I think my rep is seen here. OK, maybe the last one.

Fred931's avatar

Am I just that guy that says “dude” and “awesome” a lot and spams funny comments that aren’t funny or are unkind or accidentally flame-bait most of the time and is disliked by quite a few people?

‘Cause what’s a community without one’a those?

zen_'s avatar

New name. Still suck.

flutherother's avatar

I think I am seen as a bright cheery character, always smiling, but can be sharp and to the point if you know what I mean.

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