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Men, have you ever been pressured into doing something sexual? Women, have you ever pressured someone into doing something sexual?

Asked by bob_ (19277 points ) June 9th, 2011

Inspired, of course, by these (1 and 2) questions.

What’s your experience? What are your thoughts on the matter?

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Blackberry's avatar

Lolwtf?
I actually have been pressured into sex, numerous times. I’ve been too tired, but did she care about my lack of sleep? No, sir lol. Or when we’ve already had sex, and I need to recover, but we’re expected to magically get infinite boners? What are we? Chopped liver?

Scooby's avatar

Well I knew a girl once who really wanted to perform a strapadicktome with me but I had to decline, she was quite put out by my refusal :-/
Not my cup of tea dear!……. I was naked when she mentioned it so there was a little pressure as she reached under the bed :-/
Saying that, women are just too demanding these days Lol….............

TexasDude's avatar

Yes. When I was a teenager and still a virgin, I had a girlfriend (also a virgin) who basically berated me into trying to have sex with her even though I knew I wasn’t ready. She basically would constantly say “you’re gay if you don’t want to have sex with me” or “you’re not a real man, you’re just a little boy.” We tried a few times, but I was always too scared and that just made her angrier. The whole ordeal really messed me up. I was terrified of any sexual contact up until I was about 20, so in all, it took me around 5 years to get over it.

snowberry's avatar

If I should ever become a widow, I think I’ll just remain single (not that I don’t love my hubby). There are just too many expectations.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Yes, but I’m enough of a perv I liked it.

obvek's avatar

Mainly I’ve been pressured into buying things and talking about my feelings.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

I don’t call it presssuring I call it seducing. ;)

Cruiser's avatar

Yes….it turned out to be quite fun too! Glad I gave in!

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rebbel's avatar

Put pressure on me and i’ll be flaccid both physically and mentally.
So, no.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

Female here. I’ve played the seduction card once or twice with my SO, but if he isn’t in the mood, then I back off.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

All kidding aside. As @Pied_Pfeffer said, I wouldn’t actually try to force someone into something they don’t want to do.

FutureMemory's avatar

Yes. Many times.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I’ll answer anyway even if your genders dont include me. When read as a woman, I have been forced to engage in things sexual, first by my brother, then by his friend, then by much older men and once by a couple who wanted a threesome with me but I got out of it. To my knowledge, I never forced anyone to do anything sexually with me.

ucme's avatar

Can’t say that I have no. Maybe when i’m old & grey…..“For the love of bejeezus woman, give us a fucking break will ya!?!”

Blueroses's avatar

Female here: I know that when a boy says “no” it’s time to go back into remedial training. It puts the lotion on its skin…

Plucky's avatar

Female: I have never pressured anyone into doing anything sexual. I have never been pressured, that I can think of, into doing anything sexual (I have been forced but that is a different topic). Unless sexual includes kissing or “making out” ..I did that because it was what I was suppose to do (I got no enjoyment out of it ..until I met my current partner).

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I did not read the question as describing two different genders. It describes two different sexes to me…like anatomically male or female.

Ajulutsikael's avatar

Fem: I have pressured someone into doing something. At the time I thought they were just joking around because they went along with it. I later found out that it wasn’t the case. I felt like total shit and to this day feel like all those jerks that had their way with me. I still find myself a bit demanding when it comes to sexual acts but now I’m more apologetic and am constantly asking if the person wants to do this, if I’m not pressuring them. If they want me to stop they should tell me. It’s something that really changes you.

6rant6's avatar

I’ve been pressured and said yes. Mostly I’m glad for the experience. Events so bizarre, I couldn’t report them as fiction…

I’ve been pressured and said no; mixed results. Some of those times I think maybe I made the wrong decision. Some of them, I am sure I made the right one. Ew.

blueiiznh's avatar

No pressure. I am a very willing person in those regards.

“I’ll try anything at least twice”

Sher_King's avatar

Female: never pressured a guy. If you hear him say ‘im tired’ that means. I aint got mojo left. So back off lady. He’ll come to you if he wants it.

I on the other hand have been pressured. Thats only because I believe that when a man is so into you he loses complete rationality, his senses are out the window. Its like he’s been possessed haha. His body takes over and BAM! somehow he’s dominated you into doing somehing you didnt really want. Yepp, gotta watch out.

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