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Have you ever been disliked by someone right off the bat?

Asked by Frenchfry (7542 points ) August 31st, 2010

Left you wondering what the hell? Do you think your better then me? Are you just hateful? What do you do or say in that situation?

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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Yes and I know why grins
I am by nature a friendly person.
What I did in that situation is not care ;)

ucme's avatar

I guess some people are born with cow shit under their noses.They go through life with an expression saying as much.

JilltheTooth's avatar

Occasionally,and I never know why. I present as cute and fun, it takes getting to know me to really dislike me… ;-)

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

I can’t think of an instance where I was blatantly disliked right from the get go. But I have felt like people just didn’t particularly like me right away. I hope I’m being clear in what I mean. I don’t usually say much of anything, what is there to say?

Frenchfry's avatar

I just got that recently. I am still trying to figure it out. I guess I am not acceptable to be part of the group.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Yes and like @lucillelucillelucille wrote, I knew exactly why it was and chose to not let them distract me too much.

stardust's avatar

Yes, I have. I don’t know why, but it’s not worth worrying about.
If a person is rude/unfriendly/dislikes me off the bat, it says a lot more about them than it does me.

ducky_dnl's avatar

Yes, I have.. and they hate me to this day still. I don’t care at all though. I’m not here to please them and I sure as heck am not living for their friendship.

Hawkeye's avatar

Yes. I guess my sense of humour just doesn’t wash with some people. But that’s their problem.

Evelyn_475's avatar

The way I see it, you will always have haters in life. You simply cannot please everyone (and shouldn’t ever strive to). Take it in stride and try to make yourself a better person by it through not treating others the same way. Those people are either acting out on their own insecurities or they may just be having a bad day and are taking it out on you.

marinelife's avatar

Yes, but I have taken almost instant dislikes to people as well. So it all even out.

lonelydragon's avatar

Yes. I’ve tried being civil to them. Most of the time, I just ignore them. That way we’re both happy. But if I’m in a contrary mood that day, I’ll sometimes blurt out a cheery, “Hi, So-and-So!” just to annoy the person.

Mom2BDec2010's avatar

Yeah, alot of people don’t like me cause I come off as a b*tch at first. I’m really not though, I’m nice as can be :) I’m just very straight-forward about the things I believe in.

rebbel's avatar

Not to my knowing.
It would be hurting, i guess, if it did happen.

Winters's avatar

When my best friend and I first bumped into each other, he hated my guts and thought I was an ignorant, arrogant, racist prick. Now he knows that I’m just a friendly asshole.

aprilsimnel's avatar

Yup, and for some dumb reason, he hired me! And for another dumb reason, I worked for him for 8 years!

OK, maybe “dumb reason” = “Lessons we needed to learn that we don’t understand the point of yet”. I’ll just think of it that way.

amazonstorm's avatar

Yes. My boyfriend’s mother. She took one look at me and almost immediately I was on her shit list. I believe that she hates me because I’m black (she’s white) and that I am not good enough for her. I just deal with it and not interact with her as little as possible.

Aster's avatar

How would you know?

CaptainHarley's avatar

So far as I know, that has only happened once in my entire life. I was kind of flabbergasted at first, but when I thought about it I figured I must have reminded them of someone in their life who had done them wrong. After all, there’s no WAY someone playing with a full deck could not like ME! ; ))

lillycoyote's avatar

Yes I have, now that I think of it. I don’t remember what circumstances were, but now that you’ve asked I have this vague memory of it and that it was very confusing and disconcerting, like What the hell? What did I do.?

Edit: There was also this woman who hated me right off the bat, but that was because she was 100% certain that I had run into her car, in the parking lot of the pet food shop, which I, by the way, most certainly had not, but she was convinced she wouldn’t let go of. That whole incident was pretty weird.

BoBo1946's avatar

Oh yes…I’m a product of the gettos, and when i was younger, came across a little “rough around the edges!” Some people were offended by that. But life has made me smooth as silk underware.

josie's avatar

Only once. But I think it was racially motivated.

ratboy's avatar

Frequently, and for good reason.

Trance24's avatar

Yea I am not really sure why I come off as unlikable at times, but it has definitely happened. Perhaps my personality type just isn’t to their liking. Most likely if they didn’t like me off the bat I didn’t particularly like them. But sometimes I really like someone and they have no interest in getting to know me at all, then it is just frustrating lol.

Blondesjon's avatar

My birth mother.

SuperMouse's avatar

I certainly have. Most of the time I don’t care enough to give it any thought, but there are times that I make it a personal mission to change their minds. It usually works and if it doesn’t I figure it is no skin off my nose.

BarnacleBill's avatar

I didn’t fit the status quo for the context we met in. It wasn’t until she bumped into me at a fundraiser, and she said, “What are you doing here?” and I quipped, “I donated $1,500. What are you doing here?” that she began treating me civilly. And hitting me up for donations for various charities that she supports. Which she didn’t get.

Cruiser's avatar

Yes..I said their Kilt clashed…..so did we!!

keobooks's avatar

I have a VERY mild facial tic that gets unnoticed by most people, but sometimes I get really bad reactions—I have had people assume that I was making nasty faces or rolling my eyes at them. Just every now and then I have some snap at me and say “Don’t give me that look!” and there’s no way to please them after that.

I have ADHD that’s pretty bad unless I’m on some heavy medication. Because I’m pregnant, I can’t take it right now. I am extremely spacey and forgetful without it. I’ve had people assume that I am being a jackhole because I seem smart off the bat but get easily confused or distracted by things.

Unfortunately one of these people is my boss. She’s wanted to get rid of me almost from the beginning of my employment (even with the medication, I act a bit spacy even though I don’t do most of the annoying things) Unfortunately for her, I’m protected by ADA and she’s been up the wall. It hasn’t been too pleasant working there, but the economy is tight and we’re stuck with each other. She refuses to acknowledge that I do any good for the department because she thinks I act spacey on purpose to vex her.

Frenchfry's avatar

@Aster I know by what this persons says so meanly right off the bat. You can just tell the don’t like you.How they present themselves towards you. First thing was Um “Who do you think you are ? You have no right saying anything because you just got here . I have been here. I have the say NOT you.“Like you are nothing and never be anything, and we don’t want you here. Yet everyone else is nice and welcoming but this one person. Aster, you have never experienced some one not liking you off the bat? Leaving you like ok. I have done not thing to you but be nice.

YARNLADY's avatar

I try not to, but it has happened once or twice. I dislike some celebrities, like the Kardashians, and Ozzie Osbourn at first sight.

serafina's avatar

Oh yes, but really that’s their problem, if they haven’t taken the time to get to know me instead of judging me from my appearance, then screw them!

Akua's avatar

O yea! In the past it used to bother me when someone didn’t like me for no particular reason. Now it rather amuses me. It doesn’t happen to often though and when it does happen, the other party is usually a woman. I find it especially funny when someone who doesn’t know me, doesn’t like me and then talks about me behind my back. One of my husbands female friends actually told hubbt’s ex-girlfriend (they are friends) that I was ‘crazy’. I was so flattered.

BoBo1946's avatar

Yes, whoever modded my questions and answer this morning! my question is out there in la la land… beep beep, come in World…this is your master speaking!

ucme's avatar

@BoBo1946 What you mean this ain’t la la land!?! “Tinky Winky”..... :¬D

zzc's avatar

This question and thread are very interesting to me. I envy the people who have experienced this and been able to dismiss it. I have had people take an instant dislike to me, vehemently. I may not have even met them. We may have only seen each other. But it was very obvious that they hated the very air I breathed. @lillycoyote, confusing and disconcerting, oh yes, also very painful. And, there have been times, that person has caused me to be ostracized by a group. A friend insisted on a past life reading, to try to find the explanation. I was told that in a past life, I lived in a large stone fortress, or castle, and I was NOT A NICE MAN! These were people that I had made suffer. I don’t know if I believe in past lives, but it sure would explain a lot. Now, when it happens, I am mostly just resigned that it’s happened again, and somewhat saddened. I’ve never been able to change the reaction, once it has happened, nor has there been an obvious cause. Friends, who like me, have seen it happen, and are really mystified.

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