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I want to test whether my bf is emotional or not...

Asked by punkrockworld (960points) June 2nd, 2008

what movie should we see in order to see him shed a tear. Because he’s the TOUGH guy and I’ve never seen him sad. Or at least,not really.

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Dog's avatar

The Champ

2late2be's avatar

my husband is a really though guy to cry, he has cried 2–3 times during our fights, but he confess me that the movie “The Patriot” with Mel Gibson ALMOST shed a tear off of him, good luck..

shrubbery's avatar

The Shawshank Redemption

wizard's avatar

Chasing the Giants.

8lightminutesaway's avatar

The Fountain. Its kinda complex though.

wildflower's avatar

Why is it important to test him? If you know he’s a tough guy, then you know he doesn’t show much emotion.

DeezerQueue's avatar

A man (or boy) doesn’t have to shed tears to be emotional. Has he been there by your side through a difficult time of yours? Has he called you for no reason at all, just because he wanted to chat with you? There are a lot of ways to show emotion, and tears aren’t necessarily a good way to gauge this. Being emotional also means showing signs of compassion, sympathy, empathy, understanding, a willingness to listen to and be there for others. I had only seen my father cry twice in all of his life.

Testing others isn’t a good idea, it’s better just to see if you’re a good fit all around, and only time will tell if that’s so in each case.

themherme's avatar

I cannot honestly answer this one, I don’t know if my man has ever shed a tear from a movie lol, as bad as it sounds… good luck with this one.

willbrawn's avatar

Armaggedon, that dang movie makes me cry everytime. Hopefully you can get some kind of reaction from him out of it.

cheebdragon's avatar

Reign over me-
best movie ever!

TheHaight's avatar

I 100% agree with DeezerQ. You don’t have to cry in order to be emotional. I’ve seen my man cry a couple times and weve been together for 3 1/2 years, yet I know he is an emotional and caring person by his actions (which takes time to figure that out from some people)

ninjaxmarc's avatar

tough guys usually don’t like chick flicks.

Don’t test him when the time is right it will show.

hearkat's avatar

I have heard many guys confess to crying at The Notebook.

gorillapaws's avatar

Braveheart: “FREEDOM!!!!”

That’s a total guy movie, but I choked up a bit at the end there.

Rudy is another “guy movie” that may get him.

punkrockworld's avatar

Thanks for al the great answers ..

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chill_out's avatar

That darn Mel Gibson – I’ll admit that his movie’s get me all choked up… Patriot, Braveheart, also a few scenes from Ransom do the trick

Emilyy's avatar

I’m with wildflower and ninjaxmarc on this one. Don’t test him. Just let him be. When it’s time for him to cry or show emotion, he will. And if you’re looking for a guy who’s more in touch with his emotions, then maybe you’ll determine that over time.

DS's avatar

I don’t understand why you want to see him cry ?!! that’s a bit cruel for him.let him be himself. You liked him for being tough why this sudden urge to change him?

baseballnut's avatar

I agree with the “don’t test him” responses in principle, but it might be fun to try!

Jerry MacGuire
Brian’s Song
Sleepless in Seattle (that one might be a push!)

Good luck

yetanother's avatar

I sobbed watching Out of Africa, but I’m a crier (there I said it, what?)

baseballnut's avatar

I sobbed watching Out of Africa as well – in my case it was out of fear that it would never end! (similar reaction to The English Patient!)

Jack79's avatar

Last winter I belonged to this group of 3 men and 4 women all in their 30s who used to be really close and do stuff together (only 2 of them were a couple). So one day the girls decide to test us like that with “Out of Africa”. And of course they were crying because it is supposedly so romantic and I simply couldn’t get it. What does she see in that guy? What’s so romantic in marrying for money? And would modern-day Europeans really like to live in a scorching desert full of insects?

Yes, the colours are beautiful and it’s a good film, but don’t tell me some sweaty guy that hasn’t washed for a month and just wants a one-night-stand is Romeo. You could get that sort of thing under any bridge.

The worst part of all is of course that this was supposed to be a test of our romanticism. Which is why we decided to take them to a football match to test theirs.

gorgeousgal3's avatar

Totally agree with gorillapaws. Braveheart and Schindler’s List can make a guy choke up.

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