What to do? Leave him?

Why ask us? You know the answer.

He is a liar and a cheat.

You know what you have to do, you don’t have to hear it from us.

I would consider that emotional cheating. If he really cared about you he wouldn’t be doing this. Just get rid of him,there are real men out there who would care for you. The depression you feel when you split up is only temporary, the agony he is causing you with his behavior will last as long as you continue this relationship.

Kick him to the curb! I cannot stand a cheater! You are always going to have trust issues with this jerk even if you did stay with him and work things out. Heartache sucks but end it now before you invest too much time in this relationship. You deserve better!

It would be better to do it now rather than waste any more time with him. It must hurt a terribly, but do it as soon as possible.

You didn’t wast 2 years of your life. We always are somehow changed by relationships. We learn a great deal. You will take that with you. Loving makes us stronger. We also become stronger when we have the courage to leave a bad relationship.

The guy is rotten eggs. To even consider staying with him makes me concerned about your level of self respect. Here’s an exercise for you. Stand behind him, and kick him in the butt until he’s out the door and down by the river. Feel the burn.

He is “staying with you for a while?” I hope he does not live with you. That’s a whole ‘nother can of worms kicking him out of your mutual abode. Definitely kick him out, but it’s more complicated if you share living arrangements.

Best to cut your losses at 2 years rather than 20.
Poor character cannot be fixed, and, more to the point, IF he was able to be honest he would have had the balls to address his frustrations in your relationship or openly discuss his roving eye or sexual attractions to others. Secrets destroy intimacy and yes, you have not “wasted” 2 years, you have gained experience in what you will and will not put up with.

Womans intuition is strong, and 99.9% of the time of you have a gut feeling that someone is cheating or being dishonest with you, they are.
It is not “personal”, meaning he would act this way with any woman because it’s his smarmy character not a reflection on your self worth.
We teach people how to treat us, and cheaters do not deserve a second chance.
They may deserve a 2nd chance with someone else, but not you.

This is exactly what I told my ex husband when he used that line….
” Everyone deserves a second chance!”
I told him ” That may be true it’s just not going to be with me!” lol

Yeah, not cool, kick him to the curb like the dirty dog he is sister. :(

He needs to go. You know that – now you need to do it. It might not be easy for you emotionally, but remember, it was really easy for him to cheat.

You haven’t wasted two years. You’ve learned a valuable lesson, which is what you shouldn’t waste. He is not ready for a committed relationship, move on you deserve better.

You asked this question about the same guy two months ago; http://www.fluther.com/162390/what-to-do-do-i-stay-or-leave-or-take-sometime/#quip2773084

You are hearing exactly the same advice, with no exceptions, that 23 people gave you then. Time to act is now. Don’t squander any more of your life.

Why wouldn’t you leave him after that?

@gailcalled Good point. So your question should not be “What to do? Do I stay or leave?” but rather, “Why did I wait so long, and how nice does it feel now that I got that creep out of my life?”

He left his Tagged on, on purpose. He wants to break up with you but doesn’t have the balls or doesn’t want the guilt, so he is doing everything he can to make YOU break up with HIM, and then he can boo-hoo about it and play the victim. Typical.

He’s cheating on you, why would you stay with him? He will never stop. That’s how guys like him are. Don’t waste anymore of your time by staying with him.

Maybe you’re staying because YOU want to be the victim, subconsciously.

What advice would you give to your best friend, or your sister, or your mother if their “so called” boyfriend was treating them like this?

This guy is an amateur asshat. There are no excuses for this kind of behavior, even though he’ll probably try to give you some excuses. Make him leave now. Not tomorrow, but now. And please don’t come back in a month telling us that he’s “apologized” or that he’s “changed” or that he “wants to change” or that “he loves me.” Too many stupid women fall for that crap.

This guy is a creep. You know it and we know it and HE knows it.

Buh Bye, sonofabitch!
And that’s all I have to say about that.

You know what is best for you. Feel free to contact me for help in coping with the natural consequences of a break-up. The sooner you take back your dignity, the sooner you will start to feel better.

It would only be a waste of two years if you do not leave him, you have a valuable lesson up your sleeve now, don’t waste that.

EW I would be sooo creeped out… I be gone

PS If you stay your’e beyond stupid. How’s that for advice.

My sisters husband got busted in a similar fashion. He confessed to cheating with seven different woman (I assume there were more). They were married for ten years and have three kids together. She kicked him the fuck out and got a divorce.

If you think two years of dating would be a waste imagine what she went through. And just so you know while things were rough for a few years she is now happily engaged to a guy that knows that she doesn’t fuck around when it comes to fidelity.

I wish I had this advice when I was younger.

Leave him. Protect your heart.

I also agree with @Skaggfacemutt Classic, oh yeah. So many men are complete pussies when it comes to facing things head on, they use the passive aggressive approach, very common.

Here is how life seems to work when it comes to people: You can change your own behavior, but not that of others. Your communication and actions may inspire others, but their motivation to change only comes from within. It sometimes takes awhile for the message to sink in.

It seems like there are two options here. Either continue to hope for the best and expect the worst or break it off. The choice right now is yours.

The only advice I can offer is that if monogamy is very important to you, and this has been communicated, then it is time to end this relationship. There are plenty of people who adhere to this for a variety of reasons.

Where is the OP? OK, OP, as Gail pointed out, you asked something similar about two months ago, got all this great advice (which concurs with advice given above) and obviously did not take the advice (which, of course, you are not obliged to do, but still), and now here we are again. What’s next for you?