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Why would he end the conversation after our date?

Asked by dopeguru (1928points) November 15th, 2014

I went on a date a few days ago and we spend hours together, I texted him after the date appreciating our time and he said lets hangout again soon and then ended the conversation instantly after saying “See ya”. This is odd as he never does this. Why would he distance himself in such a way? Does that mean he doesn’t want me anymore or is it because he needs time to think through if he wants to keep me around.

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jca's avatar

How long were you in touch with this person? Was it your first date?

talljasperman's avatar

Maybe he has a job or responsibilities and can not spend that much time you. You might not want to rush the relationship.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

‘See ya’ just means goodbye where I live. Not “I never want to see you again”. It’s just a way of saying ‘bye’. It’s a shortened version of ‘see you later’. Why do you feel insecure about this? He also said ‘let’s hangout together soon’. That suggests he wants a repeat performance.

jca's avatar

@dopeguru: So you’re saying you have not heard a peep from him since the date a few days ago? Before that, how often did you guys correspond or talk?

LuckyGuy's avatar

I could mean he was working, or driving, or he was on a device and it is a pain to text “Cya” or “cul8tr” is standard text speak. It is not an insult or abrupt goodbye.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@dopeguru You ever think you try to hard? Just relax and be yourself.

Magical_Muggle's avatar

Don’t fret, he wanted to see you again, and maybe had to go suddenly, i imagine he would respond to your texts, then don’t fret

Applewhite's avatar

“See ya” is the internet slang for “See you later” and it does not mean that he doesn’t wanna see you again.

downtide's avatar

It just means that he didn’t have time for chatting at that point. Here’s the thing about most guys and phones. We don’t use them for conversation. At all. We use them just long enough to make a plan, and that’s it. Conversation is for when you are together, face to face.

jca's avatar

The OP has not responded to my questions, but if the OP’s date did not contact her for days, then it seems like something else is up.

Magical_Muggle's avatar

OK, OK, now I am wondering why people are bothering with this question anymore, we don’t know the story and the OP isn’t help us….. I don’t know…. but plz, no hate

jca's avatar

@IheartMypuppy: Where is there hate on this thread?

Magical_Muggle's avatar

what do you mean, I just meant plz no harsh comments because I said this question isn’t going anywhere

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