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When do you know you're mature enough for a real relationship?

Asked by curiousmonkey (59points) July 18th, 2008

I was wondering what your opinions are, on when your old enough for a real relationship?

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marinelife's avatar

I think it depends on what you mean by real relationship. I think it would different ages for say a romantic dating relationship than either moving in with someone or getting married.

I also think it varies from person to person.

Is there a specific here in which you have been told that you are not old enough?

blastfamy's avatar

Like Marina said, there is no real age that one is ready for any kind of relationship.
Obviously, a five-year-old is not old enough for any kind of meaningful relationship with anyone besides their parents.

Realistically, I think that there is still some meaning to the “sweet 16” birthday party, where 16 is around the age of maturity for a real relationship. I don’t believe that age is a concrete number, however.

Honestly, I have walked through schools to see far too many 14-year-olds dry humping each other against the lockers. It did not look like a real relationship the way the guy was going after her, however. It seemed far too forced. My advice is to be careful with the way you approach any relationship. Don’t force yourself to be in a relationship for the sake of the relationship itself. Instead, the age of a person’s maturity comes when the relationship is solely about the significant other, rather than the allure of the relationship.

You will know that you are old enough when you feel as though the word ”relationship” does not matter, so long as you are with the other.

The_Inquisitor's avatar

I think this depends on how mature the person is themselves.

AstroChuck's avatar

When you don’t have to ask. I don’t mean this as a smartass comment but I think you should know when you are ready. If you are unsure then chances are you aren’t. The age would vary wildly from person to person. Some are never ready.

curiousmonkey's avatar

@marina there hasn’t really been a specific time where someone told me that i just wanted to know different peoples opinion’s on it

cheebdragon's avatar

You will know when the time comes…..

nina's avatar

All relationships are real.

happiNESS's avatar

Strength as an individual helps build a good foundation for a real relationship. It takes time, patience, and experience to develop the maturity necessary to successfully relate to others. It’s difficult to determine the magic number for when someone is the right age, it seems that the best relationships happen when you’re cruising along, happily going about your business, when BOOM! Everything you never knew you wanted just falls into your lap.

My advice to you is this: Spend time getting to know yourself & figuring out what makes you tick, what makes you smile, & what you’re willing to work for. Don’t worry, be happy…you never know what’s around the corner. Good luck!

Silph's avatar

It depends on the other person. Now when I think about it, I don’t think I was mature enough for my first relationship, yet I was way too mature for the last one.

curiousmonkey's avatar

@happiNESS thanks for the advise and i was just wondering peoples opinions on when how old they thought people were mature enough for a real relationship

girlofscience's avatar

Junior year of college.

secretkeeper's avatar

I think its different for every person. Not everyone is the same and, some people are more mature than others.I say, go for the mature relationship and if you can’t handle it then you can always back down if its not meant to be.

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