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Dutchess_III's avatar

What steps can men take to prevent unwanted pregnancies?

Asked by Dutchess_III (38417points) December 11th, 2016

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ragingloli's avatar

Use a condom.
Get themselves sterilised.
Let themselves be anally penetrated, dominated and having their prostate pummeled by their strap-on-wearing partner, while wearing a bondage harness and a dog mask and being forced to make doggy barking noises.

cinnamonk's avatar

They can stop coming in women.

Pulling out is an art any man can master.

Espiritus_Corvus's avatar

While on another site under a similar question, I saw this troubling question someone posted as an answer:

Why should men give a damn whether or not they impregnate a woman if they have no say in whether or not she keeps the baby?

MrGrimm888's avatar

With two exceptions, I only didn’t pull out by the female’s request…

When I was younger, I thought it was important to bed as many women as possible. As an adult, I am far pickier with whom I choose to have sex with

Careful partner selection is my contribution. And communication with said partner about sex and children.

Sadly, the only thing holding men accountable is child support (in a minority of countries. )

BTW.This question seems like flame baiting…

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Yeah, pulling out does not work

You prevent unwanted pregnancy by wrapping it up, having oral or simply not screwing someone you would not be willing to raise a kid with.

ucme's avatar

Wild fucking stallions could not pull my arse in reverse mode when on the brink of coming.

Vasectomy
Condom
Cum in her bum
Embrace the blow/hand/foot job

gorillapaws's avatar

A man could volunteer to be in a study for Reversible inhibition of sperm under guidance. If it were safe/effective and I was done having kids I would do it. It has more appeal than a permanent solution.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Could you clarify the statement “With two exceptions, I only didn’t pull out by the female’s request…” @MrGrimm888. I don’t understand what you mean. Do you mean that there were 2 times that you didn’t pull out if the woman asked you to? Or you always pulled out unless the woman specifically asked you not to?

MrGrimm888's avatar

^I always pull out, unless the woman asks. When I was very young I didn’t pull out,by my lack of discipline, with two separate women.

When girls get drunk(and im.usually also drunk) they sometimes ask me “don’t pull out.” So, I don’t, if it’s a girl I like. And now that I don’t just bed girls for kicks, I don’t mind the risk of pregnancy.

The women I know, or have been with usually control almost every aspect of sex. It’s really all in her hands for the most part. But I would personally accept my responsibility in the act, by raising the child, if pregnancy occurred.

Love_my_doggie's avatar

Abstinence
Masturbation
Heavy petting
Condom
Another orifice (take your pick)
Vasectomy

Sneki95's avatar

Not having sex with women.

[grabs popcorn]

cinnamonk's avatar

@ARE_you_kidding_me it worked for me for years.

MrGrimm888's avatar

I failed to mention that I am an advocate of lesbian sex. I think it should happen more often. And obviously, there is no pregnancy risk.

I will support lesbian sex. But only to prevent unwanted pregnancy.~

Dutchess_III's avatar

@AnonymousAccount8 so when you were ready to become pregnant how long did it take for it to happen?

SQUEEKY2's avatar

We chose a vasectomy, because we knew we didn’t want children that is how we prevent any unwanted pregnancies.
And it was a lot easier for me than to have Mrs Squeeky get her tubes tied.

cinnamonk's avatar

I got pregnant unintentionally, and I don’t want kids, so I got an abortion. Incidentally, the encounter leading to my pregnancy was the only one in 6.5 years of being sexually active that I failed to use some form of birth control – I have successfully used pretty much all forms of birth control mentioned here to prevent pregnancy in the past.

MrGrimm888's avatar

Vasectomy seems to be a good route. (I wouldn’t do it.)

My best friend got one after his first and only child. As mentioned above, it was not as invasive as a hysterectomy, and pretty much as effective.

I personally don’t think there are enough long term studies of vasectomies to warrant large scale use of the method. My concern is’ how does the lack of sperm leaving the body affect the man?’

My friend had it done, as did my father. They both seem quite quickly agitated…

Dutchess_III's avatar

I just wondered if it’s possible that you’re body has some difficulty conceiving and that’s why pulling out has always worked for you @AnonymousAccount8. Or your partner might have some difficulty.

When I got married the first time, my husband had a child from a previous marriage. That’s my oldest kid. When we got ready to have another, it took three years of trying before I finally got pregnant. The docs were stumped. He was obviously capable of siring children, because he had one. I was capable because I’d been pregnant years before and had an abortion.
Well, we finally went in for testing and it turned out my husband had a really low sperm count.
I finally got pregnant.
With the second one we decided to start early…and it only took about 5 minutes the second time! It was kind of a shock. I wasn’t ready to have kids that close together, but oh well.
Then we divorced, he moved out of state, and quickly proceeded to have another batch of kids with his next wife.

anniereborn's avatar

I can’t believe this is even a serious question. Are we in Junior High suddenly?

Dutchess_III's avatar

Yeah. He was, @AnonymousAccount8 It was really, really hard on the kids. They were 4, 6 and 12 when he left.

cinnamonk's avatar

Men who abandon their children and then go on to have other children are the absolute worst kind of scumbag.

Seek's avatar

@ucme – I’m disappointed YOU of all people left out the tit wank.

Dutchess_III's avatar

One thing no on has mentioned is that the men can make themselves aware of the woman’s cycle, and avoid having sex during the “danger” week.

Espiritus_Corvus's avatar

^^Ah, yes. The age-old rhythm method. Risky business.

ragingloli's avatar

The best option is still slicing their penis off.

josie's avatar

“I do not avoid women, Mandrake, but I do deny them my essence”
General Jack Ripper.
Dr. Strangelove

ucme's avatar

@Seek We call that a “Barney Rubble” & I left it out because I didn’t want to…ahem, come across, as too sexually driven. I mean, me of all people, can’t conceive of such a notion.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Yes, it’s risky @Espiritus_Corvus. So is coitus interruptus, but it’s something.

Darth_Algar's avatar

@MrGrimm888 “I personally don’t think there are enough long term studies of vasectomies to warrant large scale use of the method.”

It’s been done since at least the 1890s. If that’s not long-term enough then what is?

“My concern is’ how does the lack of sperm leaving the body affect the man?”

It doesn’t. The body naturally breaks down sperm after so long.

“My friend had it done, as did my father. They both seem quite quickly agitated…”

Purely psychological. They presumed it would affect them, so that presumption did affect them. That or it was something unrelated.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Thank you @Darth_Algar. Men can still orgasm. If they couldn’t, I imagine they’d get agitated, but they can so the agitation has to be psychological.

cinnamonk's avatar

@ucme heh, heh, can’t conceive

ragingloli's avatar

@AnonymousAccount8
he has staff for that

MrGrimm888's avatar

@Darth_Algar . I don’t consider that long enough. But most medical studies aren’t much older I suppose.

The two men I mentioned don’t even think about their vasectomy. It’s a behavioral thing I picked up on…. Yes, could be unrelated, but it would make sense to me if it had an effect.

In both cases it was done so the female didn’t have to get a hysterectomy. Which is fine…

Others here have claimed that I may have a higher than average sex drive. Maybe that’s why I think about a vasectomy as a potentially bad thing. Weather sperms can be reabsorbed by the body is not something that I question. That’s definitely a fact.

But it’s also not supposed to back up. That’s why guys have “wet dreams.” Nature wants it out, not in.

I’m not saying that men shouldn’t get a vasectomy, but I wouldn’t. At this moment anyways.

I hear that on parts of India they give guys $50 to get a vasectomy. That’s smart. I’d like to see something similar implemented here in the US.

cinnamonk's avatar

@MrGrimm888 have you been vaccinated against polio? I ask because we have only 6 decades’ worth of evidence demonstrating the safety and efficacy of the polio vaccine.

MrGrimm888's avatar

^No. No polio vaccine. I’m sure my other vaccines have been through less scrutiny than the vasectomy surgery.

I completely understand you , and Algars points. And they’re good ones, and valid. You are both correct.

I guess I was just thinking out loud of my own opinion. Which may not be that relevant. But, I’m too scared of it, at this point in my life. I suppose if I got married, had kid (s) ,and my wife wanted me to do it, I would give it more consideration. I would probably rather have the procedure than let a woman I love go through something worse…

My understanding is that the procedure is reversible, correct?

cinnamonk's avatar

@MrGrimm888 according to WebMD, vasectomy reversals have the greatest chance of being successful if they are done within 3 years of the vasectomy. I suppose if you were holding out for kids some day in your future, you could freeze your sperm and then get the vasectomy, but that is not without cost considerations.

At the end of the day it’s your body, and a vasectomy is an invasive surgery. Might be right for some people, doesn’t mean it has to be right for you.

MrGrimm888's avatar

^Yeah.( You’re gonna love this one.) I’m not super comfortable freezing my sperm either. But I have been thinking about it. Zika is spreading close to me. If I want kid (s) ,and I do, I don’t want them to have birth defects of course.

cinnamonk's avatar

Basically, if I was a guy I’d only get a vasectomy if I was sure I didn’t want kids (or any more kids).

MrGrimm888's avatar

^Yes. That’s the primary reason, I am sure, for most.

ucme's avatar

@AnonymousAccount8 That & “come across” were, you know, deliberatey placed for comedic effect & no…I have a staff for that, although our staff are obliged to clean up the damp patch on the bedding.

ragingloli's avatar

*yellow patch

ucme's avatar

No, I wasn’t referring to your birth

Darth_Algar's avatar

@MrGrimm888

You’re confusing sperm with semen. Sperm only makes up a very small percentage of semen (2–5%). The rest is composed of mucus, amino acids, fructose, various proteins, etc. A vasectomy simply prevents sperm (which is what fertilizes the woman’s egg, thus causing pregnancy) from reaching and mixing in with the semen. It has no effect on a man’s ability to ejaculate or orgasm.

Lord, I feel like I’m giving a sex ed class here.

MrGrimm888's avatar

^As I explained above, it’s a personal choice thing, a mental roadblock. I’m not confused about sperm vs semen. But thanks.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Well, that was educational, @Darth_Algar. Thank you.

Darth_Algar's avatar

@MrGrimm888

I’m not suggesting that you get one or not, I’m providing a bit of info because there seem to be some misconceptions about the procedure.

MrGrimm888's avatar

^Again. Yes. I have issues with it for me. I never thought you were suggesting it. You’re good. I’m good.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

I had it done in my early twenties ,and now in my early fifties and have never regretted it, and made play time worry free.
My cousins husband had it reversed almost twenty years later, he married my cousin, his second wife then found they wanted kids so he had it done successfully and now have two kids.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I had it done after my second child. It was one of the best decisions i ever made.
Men with the big V were highly prized as dating material. back in the early 80’s – before AIDs was invented. ;-) There was even a pin you could wear. it was the male symbol with a cut in the circle.

Dutchess_III's avatar

“Prized as dating material…” Huh! I never thought of it that way!

LuckyGuy's avatar

Yes. It’s a fact. Waaay back when… before HIPAA .. waaay before the Internet…
It was a time when Executive Secretaries controlled whole departments for major corporations that had golden health care plans. I worked for such a company. If we had medical expenses we submitted them to “Mary”, the Chief’s executive secretary, and she would forward them on to the insurance company for us for reimbursement. Convenient. Shortly after I got snipped a female coworker approached me and said something that indicated she knew. How? Why?
It turns out “Mary” kept a list of all the men who had it done and circulated it among the women in the department!!! They used it as a dating tool!!!
At the time i was a little flattered but can you imagine if a man did that? Can you imagine if that happened today?!!!

Darth_Algar's avatar

One of the best decisions I ever made as well. A couple of days of discomfort is nothing compared to a lifetime of worry-free sex.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

You and I may not agree on much @Darth_Algar but totally on this one.

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