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savannahleslie's avatar

Did he lie?

Asked by savannahleslie (27points) 1 month ago

My ex broke up with me. He said he has a lot going on but ended it saying he still has feelings and he needs time. 3 weeks after the breakup he is in a new relationship. What is your take on this?

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Jeruba's avatar

All any of us around here can do is guess. My guess: he didn’t know what he wanted, and now he thinks he does.

Don’t hang around waiting for that one to wander back.

SergeantQueen's avatar

Ask him. Say “What the fuck?”

johnpowell's avatar

He told you the easiest thing to make a exit.

MrGrimm888's avatar

Wasn’t this question just asked?

MrGrimm888's avatar

Should I confront him. Or something. ..

SergeantQueen's avatar

Something very similar, yes
I think the only way to tell if he lied is to ask him. Just be forward.

MrGrimm888's avatar

^That’s the one.

It’s clearly chewing at the OP. I would rather know, one way I or the other…

elbanditoroso's avatar

Just we answered earlier in the week. He was screwing around with you then. At least he had the good taste to break it off.

Don’t dwell on it. Move on. He was bad for you.

seawulf575's avatar

Life is too short to waste on a guy like this. Whether he told you that as a kinder way of saying he doesn’t want to see you anymore, or he genuinely didn’t know what he wanted and is trying something/someone new, the end result is the same. He doesn’t want to be with you. Don’t waste another minute worrying about this guy. Move on and treat yourself right.

LostInParadise's avatar

A lot of people find it difficult to say that they want to end a relationship. Dumb as it may sound, part of it could be that they don’t want to see the other person feeling hurt. There are a lot of variations of, “It is not you, it’s me”. This certainly appears to have been one of them. Determining whether or not this qualifies as a lie will not do you any good.

Kardamom's avatar

He was probably already seeing the other woman while he was with you, or at least he was interested in her and talking to her and persuing that relationship.

He probably cares for you, in that he didn’t want to hurt your feelings by telling you the absolute truth, which is that he doesn’t want a romantic relationship with you, but he does with the other woman.

Let him go. In a perfect world, people would break up first, before they persue a new relationship, but most of the time, people become interested in someone else before the first relationship is over, and they often get involved with a new person before they end the first relationship. It happens all the time, and it’s shitty for the person who ends up getting left behind.

He probably lied to you, but at this point, it’s over and done with. He’s moved on, and so should you.

If he ends up breaking up with the 2nd girl down the line, and comes back for more with you, don’t fall for it, or you’ll get hurt by him again, when the same thing inevitably happens again.

Make yourself too busy to bother with this guy anymore. And remove his contacts from your devices and don’t take his calls or texts if he decides to slink back.

zenvelo's avatar

Nope, he told the truth in the moment.

Now it is time for you to accept the truth. He still has feelings for you, that is called horniness. But your relationship is over and done with, time for you to move on and forget about him.

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