Should I forgive someone regardless of what he has done to me as Christian?
Hi,
I used to be a non believer who recently became a Christian through my friend after he showed me the amazing way of Lord God and my savior Jesus Christ.
I have a question regarding a issue that happened to me recently. My former internship boss hired me as a intern, I was unpaid and worked everyday loyally from 9–5 there. Eventually one day, he decided to kick me because he had hired a co-worker with the money he made off me doing his jobs (I was a networking engineer). I still feel depressed about it and I want to kill myself everyday, cause I am without internship and if I won’t find a new one I will have to do my year over again.
According to the contract I read that he signed between him and school, he wasn’t allowed to kick me out and I now have the rights to put his company on a blacklist with companies that aren’t allowed to hire interns anymore throughout the whole country.
The problem is that I am Christian and according to the Bible ” For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”, I have to forgive him and I do, but I know that he is a very stubborn person and that he will keep on using people like this. What should I do about this and optional help for my current depression?
Thank you for reading this.
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In my opinion, as a Christian, you can forgive him on a personal level, but business is business and you should try to prevent him doing this to anyone else.
And try to trust in God to help you through this depression and if it doesn’t work, get some medical help with that.
One night a man had a dream.
He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the LORD.
Across the sky flashed scenes from his life.
For each scene, he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand:
one belonging to him, and the other to the LORD.
When the last scene of his life flashed before him
he looked back, at the footprints in the sand.
He noticed that many times along the path of his life
there was only one set of footprints.
He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times of his life.
This really bothered him and he questioned the LORD about it:
“LORD, you said that once I decided to follow you,
you’d walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life
there is only one set of footprints.
I don’t understand why when I needed you most you would leave me.”
The LORD replied:
“My son, My precious child, I love you and I would never leave you,
During your times of trial and suffering,
when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you.”
No person can answer this question. You must do it yourself.
You can sue him, or otherwise make it so he’ll get judged for what he did.
And you can forgive him, personally.
Both.
I read it all.
Should I forgive someone regardless of what he has done to me as Christian?
Yes.
You can forgive him for what h did to you but you have a responsibility to tell the school that he broke the contract. Why should another student suffer the same treatment when it is against the contract?
My suggestion is that you harboring anger against this man is hurting you and you need to let it go. I believe that is where the statement that you need to forgive others and the Lord will forgive you comes from. When we hold anger, resentment, jealousy, etc in our hearts, it eats us up. It rules our minds and keeps us from seeing the love and good in the world (the forgiveness of the Lord). It keeps our souls tied up in knots. All our feelings are reflections of ourselves. Let go of the bad ones.
As for telling the school about this company, do it. But do it from a calm place. Take the person out of the equation. Fact: You worked as an intern for this company. Fact: Your understanding is that they weren’t allowed to release you, yet they did. Period. The person involved, who got the job, etc is outside of what the school needs to know. If they ask for more details, or if the company HR dept reaches out to ask more details, be honest with them, but don’t dwell on it.
And lastly, but probably most importantly, the Lord is watching over you. He will take care of you and He has something else planned for you.
If you forgive someone, it doesn’t matter if he/she is a Christian or not. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
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