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Coolhandluke's avatar

Are you where you thought you'd be at this age?

Asked by Coolhandluke (1192points) 3 days ago

Financially, location, career, relationships?

I am not.

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ucme's avatar

I didn’t think about any of those things, just let shit happen & roll with it.
As it happens, I’m more than happy to be where I am.

johnpowell's avatar

LOL no.

My passion was geology. That is what I wanted to go to school for. This was back before the internet was a thing normies could use. But I was at the public library looking at books published by BOLI and saw that my chances of landing a job as a geologist were bleak unless I had a masters or PHD. But even then the pay was not great.

So I went for accounting. Then I took a few college level accounting classes and realized it was pretty much the most horrible thing ever. But I loved my econ classes and switched my major to that.

None of my jobs have ever been related to what I went to college for.

So not where I thought I would be. But that isn’t a bad thing.

Coolhandluke's avatar

@johnpowell same here. I started out with a criminal justice degree and was going to be a cop. Life happened and I had a daughter that I didn’t want to leave for 23 weeks during the academy. More importantly didn’t want to take a chance at not making it home to her. I started work in a factory and then became a supervisor. Because I made great money I stayed there for many years until I got burnt out on babysitting. I now work in another factory as a lead inspector. It’s very boring but pays decent. I always wanted excitement or something that made a difference in someone’s life.

Vignette's avatar

Yes and no. I had a goal to make 6 figures by the time I was 50. I kinda thought I knew I would get there just by working hard. I did get there but then lightning struck, got sucked down a few rabbit holes and now own the company I used to be a customer of doing something I had no freaking idea I would ever do for a living. I just wanted a job with good benefits was all.

zenvelo's avatar

Everything except financially. My savings/retirement account got wiped out through divorce and college tuitions. But I make my last tuition payment ever next month, and them on to saving!

janbb's avatar

I’m financially more secure than I ever expected to be but never expected to be divorced, living alone and have children and grandchildren living so far away. Otherwise, I’m pretty much who I would have expected to be – only much more independent.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@ucme I could’ve written your answer.

ucme's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille There’s that chemistry again, we were meant to be you & I XD

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@ucme -Your wife and my husband need to sign the permission slip. Lol!

KNOWITALL's avatar

Realistically yes they have, everything is 100% normal and expected. Home in suburbia, two cars, savings, job, etc…

To my inner child, absolutely not. This normal life is not what I wanted in the slightest. I still would like to shake all of this ‘normal’ off and go be somewhere and something new. Knowing myself, it’s not out of the realm of possibility at any point, but it’s so easy and comfortable to accept mediocrity.

ucme's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille You just had to spoil it huh? :D

ucme's avatar

@KNOWITALL Hey, abandon all that, fly to England & live a life of joy with a madman :D

cookieman's avatar

Yes and no. I never really had a plan to begin with, but I’m happy with my family, personal life is fine, career is fine, got to travel a bunch, own a house.

Financially not as I would have hoped. Too many lay offs plus school costs for my daughter.

Overall, can’t complain.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@ucme Now you got me and @lucillelucillelucille coming, getting to be a full B&B at your place haha!

tinyfaery's avatar

Honestly, I thought I’d be dead.

ucme's avatar

@KNOWITALL Hahaha, I won’t even charge lol

stanleybmanly's avatar

I never thought I would see this age. My entire life, I have never figured out what I wanted to do for a living, what sort of girl I wanted to marry, damned near none of the vitals. When I look back on it, I cannot believe I got away with it. I know for a fact that life should be hell for those without ambitions.

Demosthenes's avatar

This is about where I thought I’d be, about to finish a graduate degree. I’m more uncertain about where I’ll be in five years. It’s easier to predict where you’ll be and be satisfied with it when you’re in school. After I’m no longer in school things get a little unpredictable…

kritiper's avatar

No, but I never really gave it much thought. Considering where other people are, I’m very fortunate to be here where I am, owning my own business, living in my own house, being single, not having children or exes, knowing where the world is headed and how the story ends, having seen the things I’ve seen.

anniereborn's avatar

None of it. Not even close.

Jonsblond's avatar

I’m almost 50 and I moved to a new state last year and am starting a new career. I’m definitely where I want to be geographically and have no desire to leave. I never imagined this was where I’d end up.

I’m financially better off than I’ve ever been but still live paycheck to paycheck unfortunately. I’m at a point where I should be able to save soon.

I have no idea where I expected to be but I have few complaints about my life now that I’ve made some changes. You are never too old to start over.

Coolhandluke's avatar

@Jonsblond I feel too old to start.

Jonsblond's avatar

@Coolhandluke once you do start it’s refreshing. I feel energized again and look forward to my new life. I felt lost before. I’ll give you a kick if you need it to get started.

Coolhandluke's avatar

Man if a kick could solve this I’d say grab a few horses and a donkey and kick away!

Sagacious's avatar

Yes. I planned to retire early and I did, at 51. I intended to have a second career which I have only done in a small way. I didn’t go full throttle due to family responsibilities. Eventually I just didn’t want to work that hard any more. So I do a little work from home when I want. It’s good.

YARNLADY's avatar

I have everything I ever wanted and dreamed of, with one small exception. I am no longer able to live by the ocean, which I miss very much.

SergeantQueen's avatar

No. I really didn’t think I would graduate high school because I thought I was going to kill myself.
I have a love/hate relationship with my job
I don’t have a licence or a car
and I have a whole bunch of other stress and bullshit I am just SO SO SO tired of
Now I’m wondering if I’m going to make it to graduate college.

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