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Is honesty always the best policy?

Asked by Wildman (146points) April 5th, 2009

When your significant other asks about performance,(in sex)do you fib?

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adri027's avatar

I don’t, I just put it In a way that I know won’t bring him down. Honesty is the best policy ALWAYS.

Mr_M's avatar

Don’t RATE your partner. Tell your partner what you like and don’t like. Truthfully.

HarmonyAlexandria's avatar

The truth will come out in that situation, or it’s one of the things that lead to people being dumped for reasons they don’t understand

Bluefreedom's avatar

Yes, honesty is always the best policy.

Wildman's avatar

I better quit the fibs then!

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy in the bedroom. Just don’t be mean about it. It is better to explain to your lover what you like and you don’t like. Help them to understand what works for you, and gently let them know what doesn’t. Sexual exploration can be the best part of a loving relationship.

Being an asshole about it will just get you dumped. Then all you have is your hands, and unless you can gain a stroke by switching hands, having a partner is probably the better of the two.

Nicole18's avatar

no. be honest, if you don’t like what there doing just tell em. thats what i’d do.. they wont get better if you don’t tell

Linda_Owl's avatar

Not always, because it depends upon the situation. Sometimes honesty can cause needless pain, where a minor lie would be much more sympathetic. However, one should never lie as to promises made & actions taken which will impact others. Don’t make promises that you do not intend to honor.

essieness's avatar

I definitely do not fib. Fibbing and leading someone to believe they are doing just fine in bed when they really are horrible is only detrimental to me in both the short run and the long run. I find a way to bring things up in a way that isn’t embarrassing or hurtful.

FrankHebusSmith's avatar

Don’t lie, tell us. I would much rather know that I’m not doing something in a manner that’s pleasing her, and be told what I can do to please her…. than to have her lie and find out at some point down the road she’s been lying (which would probably be immensely painful).

When it comes down to it I’m almost always out to ensure that my partner has just as good a time as I am. And if she’s not pleasing me I would tell her how to do so, so why not have her do the same so we can both enjoy it?

hearkat's avatar

Yes, honesty is the best policy in all situations. However, diplomacy and tact are highly challenging skills to develop.

NaturalMineralWater's avatar

No. If a killer breaks into my house and asks where my wife and kids are… you can bet your ass honesty won’t be my policy. There are usually exceptions to rules.

Given the subtext of your question, however, I think honesty matters a great deal… it isn’t helping anyone to lie. Be honest.. tell them what you like or don’t like.. chances are they will be happier knowing YOU are happier.

Wildman's avatar

You are all making me a convert.I shall be honest about when confronted with this question again.If I was asked certain questions like was I the best or was I better than her,then I shall be honest.

Nicole18's avatar

La honradez siempre mejor entonces dice una mentira. Si usted no quiere lo que su hacer los dice bien fuera. Esté como “lo Hace quiere esto en lugar” y entonces yo los mostraré por eather que toma la mano o lo muestra usted mismo!

Nicole18's avatar

opps. im thinking in spanish. in english it means – Honesty is always better then telling a lie. If you don’t like what their doing tell them right out. Be like “Do it like this instead” and then i’ll show them by eather taking his hand or showing him yourself!

bea2345's avatar

Honesty is the best policy, but not the easiest. But look at it this way: if you tell no lies, you won’t have to remember your last story.

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