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How do I cope with being away from my SO for 2 months?

Asked by JONESGH (3554points) June 13th, 2009 from iPhone

The person I’m in love with will be away for 2 months with no phone service or anything. I don’t know if I can handle this. How do I cope?

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whatthefluther's avatar

Booze, perhaps? Just kidding. Try to keep yourself occupied so you don’t have so much time to think about them.

arnbev959's avatar

Can you write letters?

JONESGH's avatar

There’s basically no interaction. And I’ve spent the last 7 months with this person never more than a day apart.

serendipity's avatar

Write letters/journal to them to give to them when they return. The writing will help with your anxiety and it will make a thoughtful gift for when they return

EmpressPixie's avatar

Serendipity has my answer. Every time you think of them or miss them, write a letter to them. When they get back, give them all the letters. It also gives you a way to deal with not being in touch.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

this will be hard, i’m sorry

RedPowerLady's avatar

I second @serendipity and @EmpressPixie . In fact I’ve been in a situation like this and that is just what I did. Helped tremendously. Doesn’t help completely though. Fill up your schedule now so you aren’t spending too much time alone. If you don’t have a lot of friends then volunteer in the community.

SuperMouse's avatar

I had a similar situation late last year we were apart for 90 days, not phone, no email, nothing. I’m not gonna lie, it was tough – very tough.

I kept myself sane by writing to him every single day. I wrote everything that was on my mind and told him how much I miss him and love him. I also kept myself busy so I didn’t dwell on it too much. I don’t know if this is possible for you, but I created a document in Google documents that I added to every day. I gave him the name of the document and the password to my account so he could look in on it when he felt like it and was able to.

Another thing we did was agee to say the same prayer every day at the same time, it was kind of like our moon and we both knew at that very moment that we were both focused 100% on the same thing.

NaturalMineralWater's avatar

I’d happily trade my 15 months for your 2. Two months is like nothing. Use the phone. Use skype. Write letters. Too easy.

cyndyh's avatar

Do things that you wouldn’t normally do with this person on your own. I think you don’t want to avoid being alone so much as avoid feeling like you’re just sitting around waiting for them to get back.

When my guy was gone for a few weeks I went to movies I thought he wouldn’t miss. I hiked the sort of hikes he wouldn’t like much but I do. I went to see and hear music that he would only be interested in going to because I wanted to -not because he would be really into it. I had lunch and dinner whenever wherever I felt like it because it wasn’t a negotiation or discussion about what someone else wanted.

At times it will be difficult, but if you are determined to enjoy your time alone instead of avoiding it you can have a lot of fun. You’ll also have a lot to talk about when you’re back together. Cheers!

Bagardbilla's avatar

What everyone said, except that I’d start writing your thoughts and feelings of not being with them NOW!
Write these letters and stow them away in her bags before she departs… you can date them to be opened at certain times or as she needs to hear from you.
I’d keep a journal too, it will help you

hug_of_war's avatar

If this isn’t happening immediately, you should eat write each others letters then give them to each other before he leaves, but open them on a set schedule – say for example 1 letter a week or something like that, as well as writing letters to read when he gets back. I’‘m in a long distance relationship and when I miss him I like to make him things, it makes me feel good and not miss him to make something special I know he’ll like.

Poser's avatar

I’m with @naturalmineralwater. I just finished the first of at least four years away from my SO. Two months is a coffee break.

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