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Is it bad to have never had a relationship?

Asked by MsProtoge (22points) July 2nd, 2009

I am 18 years old, and I have never had a relationship.

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tinyfaery's avatar

I’m sure you have had relationships: friends, family, teachers, etc. If you are speaking romantically, then no. Give it time. I just hope you spent your time wisely elsewhere.

willbrawn's avatar

What kind of relationship? Romantic? Then no, your 18. Give yourself time.

MsProtoge's avatar

Oh.. I should have been moe specific, I suppose. Yes, I have had amazing friend and family relationships. I was referring to romantic ones.

Grisaille's avatar

You’ll be fine, kid. Some day, you’ll fall in love with a prince.

Keep calm and carry on.

Randy's avatar

Na, don’t worry about it. My cousin is 20 and just entered his first real relationship with a pretty cool girl I might add.

EmpressPixie's avatar

Don’t worry about it. A lot of people don’t date at all until they hit college. I dated one guy semi-seriously (ie, for a long time, but not seriously) in high school and then didn’t date at all in college. It just depends on who you meet or where your standards are. Some people start with lower standards then date around, figure out what they want in a guy, and tighten their standards. Where by “standards” I really mean “what they want out of a partner”.

You’ll meet someone who turns your head eventually and until then focus on your education. I hear it’s important.

MsProtoge's avatar

That’s what I have done my whole life.. education. not that I’m complaing. I’m just the only one in my group of friends who has never dated. Just wanted to make sure I wasn’t some kind of freak or something. :D

lukiarobecheck's avatar

My sister is 23 and never been in a serious relationship, or really any relationship of a romantic variety. I would say there is absolutely nothing wrong with it at 18. You are probably better off. No need to be in anything serious now, you have plenty of time for all that. Just enjoy everything that being single has to offer.

Welcome to Fluther by the way.

MsProtoge's avatar

@lukiarobecheck Thanks! Thanks to all really.

JLeslie's avatar

Many many girls have not had relationships by the time they are 18…it is completely normal. At 18 you are lucky not to be involved with anyone yet. Makes things more complicated at this stage. You are FREE right now…free to only worry about yourself, go to college, have fun, learn, see new things. Romantic relationships can be wonderful (I have been married 16 years and love my husband) but when you are young lots of changes are going on and a boyfriend can confuse things. Like I see you are going to go to college, what if he was going to school 1000 miles away? You can be glad you don’t have to deal with things like that.

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

I think it puts you in a unique position free of the stresses and sometimes absolute nonsense of teenaged relationships. Focus on school and when a relationship feels right, do it then.

skfinkel's avatar

I know a guy who must have been 26 and so wanting to find someone to love. Then, he did, and it was his first love, and looks pretty permanent. There is no script for this—it’s all so individual and personal, and all okay.

Grisaille's avatar


aprilsimnel's avatar

Nah, you’re OK. Chill and enjoy your life. Someone is bound to come along sooner or later, honestly.

peyton_farquhar's avatar

I’m sure that there are lots of people who wish that they could trade all the dead-end relationships they have had until this point in their lives for one meaningful, satisfying relationship.

marinelife's avatar

There is a school of thought that no one has real relationships before adulthood.

peyton_farquhar's avatar

So what is it called when two 16-year-olds get married?

JLeslie's avatar

@peyton_farquhar luck if they make it into adulthood still married. Even if you stay married for 50 years having married at 16, I think you would have to agree that when you look back at the relationship your love and bond was more meaningful in adulthood.

Jack79's avatar

18 is not that old, take your time, the right guy (or girl?) will come along eventually :)

marinelife's avatar

@peyton_farquhar Arkansas or Mississippi.

jpasq03's avatar


Get a career, stability, good character, and a ten year plan. These are your sexiest assets.

If you don’t know who you are then dating/finding the one will be extremely harder.

Song of Songs 3:5 “Promise me, O women of Jerusalem (anyone who’ll listen), by the gazelles and wild deer, not to awaken love until the time is right.”

cyn's avatar

@Grisaille I’ve seen it
@MsProtoge I wouldn’t worry to much. Some had a lot of realtionships and they feel like crap. It just depends. But don’t beat yourself up. I only lasted a day in my romantic relationship.

Judi's avatar

My daughters husband was never in a relationship until he met my daughter. He was a great guy, but he just knew what he wanted and waited until it came along. He was 28 when they met.

kaywizard's avatar

@MsProtoge I’m 20 and I’ve never been in a romantic relationship. I spend most of my time studying and getting and education and at times i feel left out of the relationship loop. Personally I’d like to obtain an education, get a job in my selected field, have my own place and then work on having a relationship with someone.

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