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tups's avatar

(nsfw) So what's your opinion about hair "down there"?

Asked by tups (6689 points ) November 30th, 2012

What’s your preference and why?

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KNOWITALL's avatar

Ugh, do people still have hair there, gross?! Hair intensifies smells, which is why most people shave their underarms as well.

It should always be clean, which to me means shaved/ waxed, smelling nice and looking nice. Men and women.

My auntie the hippy doesn’t like to shave and I hate to say it, but the phrase ‘dirty hippy’ comes to mind.

marinelife's avatar

I don’t mind it. People were meant to have hair down there not be bald like eggs.

syz's avatar

The “bare look” often looks disturbingly pre-pubescent to me.

Shippy's avatar

I think hair down there should make a come back. In fact. I’m going to start growing mine now. Just like all the sheep, snip snip they all went bald. I’m tired of bald down there. I want some hair!!

I don’t like a hairy mess and I don’t like hairy balls. But hair is nice is if it trimmed and well kept. Just like the hair on your head.

Jussange's avatar

I’m about to epilate that bush, trim it and it just comes back thicker.

KNOWITALL's avatar

Wow, I am really surprised by the ‘love the hair’ replies….are you all in the US or ?

newtscamander's avatar

I don’t mind it on my partner, but I feel uncomfortable when I am not shaved.

ragingloli's avatar

There should be a mandatory global gene therapy that disables hair growth anywhere but the head.

bob_'s avatar

I’m a rumble-in-the-jungle kind of guy.

Kardamom's avatar

I’m in the U.S. and I have yet to see (in the flesh, no pun intended) an adult who was shaved down there. It’s because we’re adults, not children. I wouldn’t want my partner or myself to appear to be a child down there.

Of course the hair down there should be kept clean and tidy, that’s why we shower and trim (if it’s even needed, most of the time it doesn’t even need to be trimmed).

I’ve never encountered BO, of the type that permeates from underarms down there, never.

wundayatta's avatar

I’m with @Kardamom. I like hair. I prefer hair. If you take showers, you generally don’t smell badly even if you have hair. But mostly hair is interesting. I like how it feels. I don’t like stubble, which seems to happen very quickly after shaving. Hair provides shape and definition, and is aesthetically more pleasing to me.

The image of clean shavenness seems like a porn trope to me. It’s about body parts as parts, not as part of a whole. Hair seems real and adult and comforting. Shavenness is cold and pornographic to me. I guess I find it a little creepy. Although, in the end, it’s the person who counts, not how they groom themselves.

KNOWITALL's avatar

Hmmmm, this is so interesting! My husband calls it the ‘wicked garden’....lol

I would say with most of my friends, it seems to be nicer when you’re menstruating as well, because you feel cleaner.

To me it has nothing to do with childishness and more to do with my OCD about cleanliness ha!

DigitalBlue's avatar

In the US, 30 years old, female, love the natural look on both men and women.

blueiiznh's avatar

Trimmed, nothing fancy, natural, and please don’t shave it. Seeing you’ve left something, but have taken the care to not let it go to the need for a weed whacker, tells me you have a degree of self-respect, both in keeping yourself tidy and in your own beautiful, amazing pubic world. But if you’re into going hairless, that’s your call. I’m also not looking to run my hands through anything unless it’s atop your head.

deni's avatar

After my first few relationships I said FUCK shaving that sensitive ass area. Yeah it’s smooth for TWELVE HOURS then it hurts like a bitch for three days and you’ve got unsightly bumps and honestly for a few days after I’d avoid sex cause it looks so bad and like I said, the redness! Not to mention the itching! If a guy doesn’t wanna have sex with me because I have TRIMMED pubic hair instead of NONE, he can go fuck HIMSELF then we’d both be happy. I actually feel quite strongly about this and feel bad for the women who feel they have to shave week after week after week. Those poor hair follicles!!!!!!!!!!!

We have hair there for a reason. Keep yourself clean and it won’t smell, your period won’t make it gross, and the smell that is created and hangs around that area, if you’re clean, is supposed to be attractive to men. But we forget that kind of stuff nowadays with the amount of porn we’ve all watched and the pictures we’ve seen of women with no hair down there, cause that is so super realistic.

DigitalBlue's avatar

@deni as someone with sensitive skin, I’m virtually shaking your hand across the internet.

Kardamom's avatar

I’ve never had menstrual blood get mixed up with my hair down there! The place where the blood is coming from is not close enough to that hair. I hope no one is suggesting that they have hair all over their wet pink parts!!!

deni's avatar

@DigitalBlue I also have semi sensitive skin, handshake returned! It was a good firm one too, bravo.

Mariah's avatar

I leave it up to my partner whether he shaves or not. I don’t want to ask him to do anything with his body that he doesn’t want to do. I personally prefer when he trims because it can get in the way otherwise, and he likes to trim because he feels it’s easier to clean off fluids without it there.

He asked me to trim too because he finds it icky when performing certain acts. I’m fine with that. My skin gets a little bit irritated but nothing awful. I never used to trim before that because I didn’t really care either way. I think it’s completely hygienic either way if you wash properly.

jonsblond's avatar

I’m more comfortable with the 5 o’clock shadow (for myself). Anything more or less feels itchy to me.

tedd's avatar

For the longest time I very strongly favored it being shaved down there (both for myself and my partner). Over the last few years though I became more comfortable with some hair being down there, and even find it sexy if done right (like just popping out hair or maybe a well groomed landing strip, etc).

I still like it shaved as well though, I just like variations of hair just as well.

KNOWITALL's avatar

We have a shop here in Missouri and they bedazzle your vajayjay, it’s fabulous!

poisonedantidote's avatar

Can’t beat a bit of good ‘ol pubes to tickle your sack when you do doggy style. Shaved or trimmed is good too, it all has its purpose.

Mama_Cakes's avatar

Normally, I shave the bikini line and shorten the short and curlies. But, it’s winter and I’m lazy. I keep it tidy enough. My partner does the same.

linguaphile's avatar

I don’t want a jungle, but I don’t want a bare wasteland either.

I come from a different angle… My ex was obsessed with porn of barely legal teens, and I’m sure some of the girls he watched were under 18. He asked me to shave a few times and I thought it was for whatever reason, but once I realized it was because he wanted me to look 12, I have since then NEVER been able to go bald without feeling deeply disturbed.

I also have concerns about pubes becoming gross in society’s mind—a clean body, no matter how much hair is anywhere, does not stink unless that person has some hormonal problem. I understand that there are personal preferences for comfort levels—that makes sense and, sure, why not. Do what feels right. But for me, this “imitating porn stars” or 12 year olds just feels wrong.

gailcalled's avatar

Never shaved my public hair ever. (No need to be coy and say “down there,” either.)

The people I hang out with don’t either…men or women.

I just met my nephew’s stunningly beautiful 29-year old new bride. She doesn’t shave her legs. . Good for her.

bob_'s avatar

@gailcalled For a second I thought you were going to say “She doesn’t shave her pubic hair”. I was all “whoa, that was some meeting”.

Bellatrix's avatar

I’m fine with pubic hair. It’s natural. Yes to keeping it tidy, but no need to remove it completely. This thread is refreshing.

bookish1's avatar

Completely shaven disturbs me, reminds me of the “barely legal” porn that is trying its best to look like child porn.

Symbeline's avatar

@bob_ LOL, rumble in the jungle. XD

As for me, I have a wizard fetish.

bookish1's avatar

@Symbeline : Yeah, I figured the Vikings didn’t shave either…

Symbeline's avatar

Actual, non romanticized Vikings were actually pretty big on hygiene, contrary to popular belief. But I’m pretty sure that, indeed, this didn’t involve cue balling one’s crotch.

ucme's avatar

Men grow facial hair in aid of charity it’s called mo-vember.
I think women should grow a massive bush & call it fan-uary.

tups's avatar

Great answers, everybody! I’m glad to see that so many people are not fan of the bald look, I thought most people preferred shaved.

ucme's avatar

I should add in all sincerity however, that I like me a neat little “landing strip”, nowt worse than finding a hair in your food.

Shippy's avatar

@ucme I take it you have a landing strip too? If not.. let me help you?

ucme's avatar

@Shippy No. I just have a massive cock, which you can take your filthy hands off thank you very much!

Shippy's avatar

@ucme Prove it :P

ucme's avatar

I’m typing with it now :¬)

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

I guess my opinion is “to each his/her own.” But saying that it’s “gross” kind of bothers me. It’s not a fungus or a disease, it grows there naturally. Apparently, it’s supposed to be there… Whether or not it stays there is up to the individual.

I used to shave mine bald, but now I just keep it trimmed. The shaving made me itchy, no matter what products I tried, and itchiness is unpleasant and embarrassing. I shave the bikini line in the summer and just keep the rest neatly mowed.

ucme's avatar

^^ That’s a neatly trimmed pussy, very grumpy looking though, like that of a nun perhaps.

chyna's avatar

Keep it neat and trimmed.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Isn’t this a rather <ahem> hair raising subject. When I was a kid, (back when mummies ruled the day) the bushier the muff the more she was desired, (at least by us boys who got our hands on a Playboy mag). Not to say all monkeys need a bushy muff, some actually look good, especially on Asian women, not so much on African American women, and on Caucasian women if it starts to creep to the belly button or down the inner thigh from the vulva it is unattractive. If the bush is contain to the Mons with the vulva shaved or it is trimmed near like a golfing green then it is OK. However, depending on the shape of the lips, some monkeys are actually better bald. Certainly is less of a distraction snacking that feminine taco.

hearkat's avatar

I am in agreement that it looks too prepubescent.

I have shaved and waxed and had a Brazilian wax, and there is truth to the explanation that the hair is there to keep the area cooler and less chafing between the parts with hair there.

Shippy's avatar

@hearkat Interesting points you make I had never thought of that. (Chafing etc.,). Makes one wonder if hair is there for a purpose.

livelaughlove21's avatar

I hate when guys shave their pubic hair completely off. I like the balls to be smooth, and the rest to be trimmed. They’re men, and men are supposed to have body hair. Don’t even get me started on guys that shave their armpits. If I wanted to be with someone smoother than I am, I’d be with a female. Hair on a man is rugged, masculine, and sexy. I don’t even like my husband’s face to be clean shaven. He just trims and keeps the scruffy look. It’s hot.

As for women, I think it LOOKS better shaven or waxed and I know a lot of guys, especially young guys, prefer it that way. I wish I felt comfortable being seen with hair there, because shaving seems to cause more problems than benefits. Keeping it trimmed would be ideal. And I don’t think there’s anything “dirty” about it. I’ve never had blood get stuck there either while I’m on my period. I wear tampons anyways – no mess, hair or no hair. Most of my female friends my age shave it bald though.

Unbroken's avatar

I love being smooth. It feels better and cleaner. Much happier touching, more confident and no prickle through with thin summery clothes. Also no worries about bathing suits and lines.

Though I would consider a trim landing strip if it didn’t the extra time to maintain. I have limited time in the morning and no spas.

Judi's avatar

neat and tidy but not bald.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

What they have stays. I have no place to tell them to change any of it and would not take it well if I was told to change something down there.

ETpro's avatar

I like natural. It traps the natural scents that, so long as a person bathes or showers to avoid getting gross, make them smell alluring. And I hate razor stubble.

tups's avatar

@livelaughlove21 I hear ya’. I totally agree.

Luiveton's avatar

@KNOWITALL I have to agree with you, being clean down there is important mainly health-wise, especially when menstruating. But what do you mean by ‘are you all in the US or..?’
I doubt hygiene is classified by region.

livelaughlove21's avatar

@Luiveton No, but grooming practices vary by culture. You may find a lack of hair to feel more clean, but not shaving doesn’t make one unhygienic. Therefore, it’s not necessarily a hygiene practice. Many cultures do not shave body hair – it doesn’t make them dirty, it’s just a preference.

wilma's avatar

I think the bald trend started with the porn industry. Get rid of the hair to get a better view of the bits with the camera lense. Then it bacame more popular as some folks thought that was what they were “supposed” to do. That that was the norm and most everyone got rid of their pubic hair. Clearly that is not the case. This thread for example, proves that.

ETpro's avatar

@wilma Judging from how they treat women in the typical porn video, the last thing on earth I want to emulate is a porn actor.

linguaphile's avatar

@ETpro Thank you. Now, let’s try to convince many women of that, especially with stuff like 50 Shades of Grey being a bestseller.

psyonicpanda's avatar

Clean Shaven or Neatly trimmed….I simply do not like getting Hair in my mouth.

Leanne1986's avatar

Personally on myself I prefer not to have hair down there. On others, I don’t really care. Women can be sexy with or without hair although I do like it to be tidy. On men, I find pubic hair sexy. I’m not a fan of the bald look on a male genitalia.

Leanne1986's avatar

@ucme You stole Sarah Millican’s gag!!!

psyonicpanda's avatar

@KNOWITALL have you been watching Blue Mountain State?

ucme's avatar

@Leanne1986 Your point being? She’s funny as fuck & that joke deserved an outing, simples.

jca's avatar

I read somewhere recently that the bald thing became more popular as underwear and bathing suit styles got smaller and smaller, and so therefore, nobody wants to see hair sticking out of a thong or bathing suit. Probably the porn industry had a big influence, as well, as @wilma theorized. I also read that the majority of women under 45 shave and women of older generations don’t feel it to be as necessary.

For myself, I keep mine as neat and shaved as possible, for myself and also for when “he goes down south.”

ucme's avatar

As I suspected, she had no point!

Leanne1986's avatar

@ucme No need to get defensive, I haven’t been on Fluther since yesterday hence why I have only just got round to answering you. I have no “point” (other than I appreciate Sarah Millican too) I don’t care if you want to “out” other people’s gags, I just recognised it from a recent TV appearance she did and mentioned it.

ucme's avatar

@Leanne1986 If I wanna get defensive I will see, so there!
She is very funny though, I gave her a shout out ages ago on here as one of my fave comedians, i’m sure she’ll have no worries about me “borrowing” one of her lines, us northerners share out like man.

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