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Serious question: do you like kissing?

Asked by Hawaii_Jake (25799 points ) January 13th, 2013

I meet a lot of men who don’t like kissing on the lips. Not all, but there is a high enough percentage that I’ve started to question it, because I really like kissing.

Why would someone not like to kiss? What are the reasons?

Do you like kissing? Do you resist kissing on the lips?

I really am baffled by this behavior and would like some information.

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bookish1's avatar

Oh hell yeah dude.

I have never encountered this attitude. They must be watching too much awful mainstream gay porn or something…

Kardamom's avatar

I even kiss dogs on the lips!

nofurbelowsbatgirl's avatar

I like kissing only if I like you and your breath is fresh :)

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I love kisising. If a woman isn’t a good kisser, or willing to work on it, it’s a deal breaker. I’m willing to work with anyone, but if you can’t learn to kiss how else are we going to get close when we snuggle?

serenade's avatar

I’m a male, and I fucking love kissing. I wouldn’t stay with someone who didn’t, and this is coming from someone who has put in his time compromising on lots of things, including kissing.

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livelaughlove21's avatar

Are these men prostitutes? Or otherwise in an open relationship? Those are the only reasons I can think of for refusing a kiss. Kissing is fun. :)

Sunny2's avatar

I don’t kiss casually, but I have to say that it depends on the kind of kiss, the timing, and my feeling for the kisser. No to sloppy, wet, too hard, too forceful, too much tongue too soon. Yes to initial gentleness with slowly increasing pressure leading to all barriers down . . . . With that approach you can even get by bad timing. And my feelings about the kisser stop any action in the first place.
Or are you talking about how my grandmother kisses me?

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

@Sunny2 I am talking about romantic kissing and not about how your grandmother kisses you.

@livelaughlove21 No, they aren’t prostitutes. They’re single men. I think it’s bizarre, because I totally agree with you that kissing is fun.

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Bellatrix's avatar

I love kissing, but I don’t like people trying to eat my face and slobbering all over me. Kissing when done well is so, so hot and such a turn-on. Bad kissing…ugh!

Pingu's avatar

Kissing feels so nice! Why would someone not like it?

FutureMemory's avatar

I love it. Can’t get enough.

But…

Keep your freakin’ tongue in your own mouth, please.

I remember I was with a new girl and we went to kiss each other for the first time, and as her eyes closed and our mouths touched all of a sudden she thrusts her tongue out like some kind of filthy animal looking for insects down a hole. Just…yuck.

bookish1's avatar

@Hawaii_Jake : Maybe they think it detracts from their masculine “straight-acting” fantasy. That’s really my best guess…

Yeahright's avatar

@Kardamom Yes, I kind of do that too.
@Adirondackwannabe If a woman isn’t a good kisser That I think it’s a subjective notion. What is good for you might not be good for somebody else. Have you seen how dogs great each other? Sure, they like to put their noses everywhere. But, we humans have our share of bacteria and other stuff in our mouths too (tongue, teeth, gums, saliva, you name it). Did you know that one of the areas where bacteria concentrates is in the mouth? Oh god what a cold shower Grandparents kiss too. My parents are grandparents, and they kiss too.
@livelaughlove21 Are these men prostitutes? ...Kissing is fun. Again, this is very subjective, people’s idea of what constitutes fun is different. They might think it’s messy or not so fun after all.

Almost forgot to answer again. I am not crazy about kissing. I can’t take that much kissing at times. Certainly, not the long kissing sessions of my teenage years.

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Bellatrix's avatar

[Mod says…] This is General people. Can we keep responses on topic please.

JLeslie's avatar

Men don’t like to kiss? Enough of them don’t that it is a thing? I never heard this before. I like to kiss good kissers, and only someone I am in a romantic relationship with. Make-out sessions should be french kissing, I don’t really understand the closed mouth kiss, except for brief sweet kisses. I miss the Jr. High days of kissing for extended periods of time. Although, bad kissers are really quite annoying.

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Yeahright's avatar

@JLeslie You know when people say good kissers/bad kissers I don’t know what that means because some people like it softer others harder. Some people like more of this or more of that. So maybe what is a good kisser for you it is not a good kisser for me.

I also think, that the OP is referring to men in particular, but this can also apply to women. Some do not enjoy kissing that much even if they are in a romantic relationship

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

@JLeslie Yes, in my time I’ve run across a few men who don’t like kissing. I’ve run across a spate of them recently, and it’s made me question my own desires. I like kissing. I like being close and snuggling and kissing. It’s sensual. I like to feel like I’m close to breathing the same air as another man.

@Yeahright I am referring to men in particular, because I kiss men romantically. I don’t kiss women that way.

This is not so much a question about good or bad kissing so much as it is a question about kissing or not kissing at all.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Hawaii_Jake I just love kissing. I’m straight. It’s all okay.

Yeahright's avatar

@Hawaii_Jake My point was that whether you like kissing or not was not exclusively a man’s thing, but that it also applies to women. To humans in general then. It is a personal preference and not so much a gender thing. The reasons why some people are not so crazy about kissing are varied. In my case I think it is a bit too much of the other person on my face, breathing someone else’s air it’s not so fun for me. At the end of the day, whether I’d engage or not in heavy kissing boils down to how passionate and close I feel to the guy I’m with. There is also the shape of the lips, some lip shapes I like more than others, and in general if I am in the mood or not.

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Hawaii_Jake's avatar

@Yeahright I think I see what you’re talking about. It’s about passion and familiarity. I’ve noticed different shaped lips, but personally, that’s not been an issue before.

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AshLeigh's avatar

If the guy is a good kisser, and remembered to brush his teeth I like kissing.

Unbroken's avatar

I love kissing however there have been relationships where I became less interested or turned off with kisses.

Bad breath. Continual bad kissing overly wet too much tongue pheromones are wrong too much lip.

Also there it is more of a mental thing. I feel like I am being used or don’t want great intimacy as I am moving emotionally away from the relationship.

jca's avatar

If I like someone we can make out for hours.

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cookieman's avatar

I love kissing. Particularly my wife, which is of great relief to her.

We were smooching today, in the kitchen – much to my daughter’s chagrin as she left the room in disgust. ewwww

Kardamom's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe I even like to kiss dog tummies!

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wildpotato's avatar

I can deal with kisses for greeting or departing, but I don’t find anything particularly appealing about making out. Not sure why I dislike it. It’s surprising to me that people would enjoy making out. And I really hate cuddling. “What are your reasons” is an equally unanswerable question whichever way you apply it. Something either feels awesome or it doesn’t. But psychologically, I suppose it might be an extension of my generalized aversion to being touched. I’m not sure what that aversion is due to, but I have my guesses and they’re all disturbing.

serenityNOW's avatar

@Hawaii_Jake – Love kissing. There’s just something so erotic about a good kiss. That’s more of a recent thing, though. Started two boyfriends ago. Prior to that, it just was “enjoyable” but now I can’t get enough of it. Sure, they go right for your pants pretty quick, and that’s okay, I suppose, but I almost feel like kissing is a way to get to “know” someone a bit more intimately. I don’t know – like I said, it’s a recent thing.

Zakat's avatar

In my experience, I’ve learned more about the women I’ve been with from kissing them than can even be put into words, and perhaps more than other, considerably more intimate acts. But I absolutely love kissing. Sometimes it is incredibly romantic to ONLY kiss.

Well, it felt really good admitting that. But no. Absolutely no aversions to it here.

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cazzie's avatar

I used to love kissing. It is one of those lovely, close, sweet things that humans do. I miss it.

JLeslie's avatar

@Yeahright For sure there is some subjectivity on what makes a good kisser and a bad kisser, but I think some people really kiss badly period. Especially if we include kisses when we were very young and inexperienced, hopefully those young boys grew up to be better kissers.

@Hawaii_Jake I wonder if there is a common theme among those men about what they don’t like about kissing? Just no thrill? Have been told, or they found out, some women said they were bad kissers and are now self conscious or insecure about it? Too intimate for them?

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augustlan's avatar

I love kissing! I miss making out. On the other hand, one of my daughters is really grossed out by the idea of kissing, and doesn’t even like to be kissed by me or her father on any bare skin. We can kiss her on top of her head (on the hair), or on her shoulder (if she’s got her shoulders covered), but even a kiss on the cheek is not allowed except for very rare occasions. She’s a teenager now, and has pretty much always been this way. I don’t see her changing her mind about it, but who knows? Even she is not sure why she doesn’t like it, so I can’t help you with that part.

KeepYourEyesWideOpen's avatar

Kissing has been proven to activate a certain chemical in the brain which prevents you from getting sick as easily. And honestly, who doesn’t like smooching?

tups's avatar

I totally dig it.

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diavolobella's avatar

I like it as long as there is no bad breath or too much slobbering involved. My SO is a smoker and also smokes cigars on occasion and that can get kind of nasty sometimes. I also do not want to kiss him after he’s been giving oral. I don’t want to taste myself. sorry if that’s TMI

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KeepYourEyesWideOpen's avatar

Who doesn’t? Being kissed by someone you care about is like velvet, yo! Nonetheless, I’m not mad about someone sticking their tongue down my throat, I just like normal kisses.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

@KeepYourEyesWideOpen There are a number of posts in this thread from users who don’t like kissing. Have a look.

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