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flo's avatar

What am I practicing If I'm actively expecting less of my daughter than my son, or vice versa? See Detail.

Asked by flo (11613points) 1 week ago

I mean generally speaking, just based on their anatomy?

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Pinguidchance's avatar

sexism
/ˈsɛksɪz(ə)m/Submit
noun
prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex.
“sexism in language is an offensive reminder of the way the culture sees women”
synonyms: chauvinism, discrimination, prejudice, bias;

zenvelo's avatar

Poor parenting.

Call_Me_Jay's avatar

Sexism, if just based on anatomy. Projecting lower or higher expectations onto them based on sex.

seawulf575's avatar

I guess it depends on what you are expecting or not expecting. Do you expect your daughter to do things that she can’t physically do whereas your son can? That isn’t realistic and will not help anything. I believe that males and females are different in a number of ways physically, psychologically, and emotionally. It doesn’t make one better than the other, just different. It is our job as parents to figure out what our children’s strengths are and where they need to work harder.

flo's avatar

@seawulf575 Think of a horrible thing to do, and go from there. I wasn’t referring to physical ability. (but I didn’t point that out) Re. the other ways please see :
https://tinyurl.com/z49l887 (guardian…Google )
https://tinyurl.com/y2pdjp2r (males and females conditioning Google)

flo's avatar

@Pinguidchance and @Call_Me_Jay and @LuckyGuy yes, sexism. “Poor parenting” not specific enough, I don’t think.

seawulf575's avatar

@flo my point is that it really doesn’t matter what the sex of the child it, you will always treat it differently from its siblings…or at least you should. All children are individuals. They all have strengths and weaknesses. It is our job as parents to learn those strengths and weaknesses and work with them. I would not generally treat my daughter differently from her brothers just because she is a female, but I might challenge her differently because of her personality or because of her strengths.

flo's avatar

@seawulf575 I thought you meant “I believe that males and females are different in a number of ways physically, psychologically, and emotionally.” but ok, I’m glad I posted those links.

Dutchess_lll's avatar

Do you think one is smarter than the other?

seawulf575's avatar

@flo, I do believe that males and females are different. And to me, the main differences are physically, psychologically and emotionally. This article shows some of the differences. This is another. And no, @Dutchess_lll , this doesn’t mean one is smarter than the other. They just process and react differently. As I mentioned before, men are generally (not always) stronger physically, so I would not expect a daughter to do things physically that I might expect out of a son. I would challenge them both to help the push themselves to do the best they can. Every one of my children and step-children were different. I even have identical twins and they are different from one another. Physically they are very similar, but how they learned and what they excelled at was different. I would not expect less out of my daughter than her brothers, but I might have to come up with new ways to motivate her.

flo's avatar

@seawulf575 You’re still talking skills

seawulf575's avatar

@flo, not really. Unless you consider personal development a skill. My wife and I, when we got married, had 6 kids between us. Some were great, some had issues with alcohol or drugs, some needed help with self-esteem. You don’t deal with all of them the same way as in pushing the same skills, but you have to hold them all to the same standards. It is not okay for one to steal just because they are a kleptomaniac. It isn’t okay to let one be forever dependent on mommy and daddy just because they don’t want to take responsibility for themselves. We had to understand what we expected out of our children in the general terms (self-sufficiency, responsibility, integrity, etc) and then work to mold them all in that direction. But each molding might take on a different look based on the strengths and needs of that child.

flo's avatar

@seawulf575 No mention of gender this time. That’s the whole point of my OP.

Dutchess_lll's avatar

Your OP specified gender @Flo.

seawulf575's avatar

@flo you specified treating your daughter differently from your son. That’s gender.

flo's avatar

I’ll have to leave it here. Asked and answered long ago.

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