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Dating in the time of covid?

Asked by ANef_is_Enuf (26789points) July 7th, 2020

I have been seeing a guy for several months and we are supposed to get together this weekend. We don’t get together face to face often because of everything going on and we also don’t go out to traditional “dates” like dinner or movies, naturally.

If he comes over this weekend, it’s supposed to be raining, so we’ll be stuck in the house. I don’t have TV or any kind of service for movies (neither of us like that stuff much to begin with) and I expect it will be almost 100F and humid that day so I don’t think I like the idea of cooking. We both like art, so I was trying to think of something creative and fun we could do that is low pressure since this is still fairly new and we are still getting comfortable in each other’s space. I need ideas. Even non-art ideas that are just low key and fun. Fun + relaxing would be ideal.

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ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Tie dye some t-shirts or something like that.

seawulf575's avatar

Board games can be entertaining. Cards. You could do something really bizarre like creating a story where one of you gives the first sentence and then the other gives the next line, etc, etc. Talk.

zenvelo's avatar

Jigsaw puzzles.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

These are great ideas.

JLeslie's avatar

Board games, trivia games, cook some meals together, puzzle, read a book out loud taking turns. It could be a book he’s already reading and just a few chapters.

Is he actually artistic? Or, he just appreciates art? You could tell him to bring some art supplies or a project he’s been working on.

If he has cable TV or streaming you can most likely watch it on your wifi on a computer or iPad if you want to watch a show or movie. Make some popcorn.

chyna's avatar

I like the games and popcorn ideas.

Jeruba's avatar

Work side by side on a still-life drawing or painting using a model that you set up.

Read stories aloud to each other by turns, maybe from a book of fairy tales, such as Andrew Lang’s or Hans Christian Andersen’s. Or read a play aloud, each taking more than one part. Ham it up a little.

Break out the old backgammon board or a set of dominoes. (Not too much of the competitive stuff, though. Collaboration is more fun.)

Make a recipe that doesn’t involve cooking, or not much cooking.

Try some yoga poses.

Invent a game.

Ask him to bring something you both could play with or work on or make.

Color in a coloring book.

Cut and/or dye each other’s hair.

Have fun. It sounds like you two might be a good match.

anniereborn's avatar

Take turns playing music for each other. My husband and I do this sometimes. Play one of your favorite songs and then he plays one of his. I think this is a fun way to get to know someone. You could do this with YT videos too, music or something else.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

How ‘bout some paint pouring? XD

JLeslie's avatar

Paint your nails. If he’s an artist maybe he would be into it. He could paint yours or his own.

I like the cut your hair suggestion. Especially, if you haven’t been able to get a hair cut. That’s a very trusting thing I think. One warning though, you really need scissors made for cutting hair. You can buy a pair at a drug store.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Paint pouring was actually at the top of my mental list because he mentioned wanting to try and I’ve only done it once, so it would be fun to play with since we’d both be learning. I just need to make sure I have all the stuff.

Coloring is also already on a future agenda.

He shaves his head, so I don’t think there will be any hair craziness happening, lol.

These are all great ideas, though, thank you!

LuckyGuy's avatar

What will you be doing for dinner? Will you be getting takeout?
If not, I suggest preparing some cold foods together. Make a fruit salad by cutting up c antelope, honeydew melon and watermelon. You can think of other cold foods that you both enjoy.
And you can see if he is a helper.

longgone's avatar

I like many of the ideas already, just dropping in to suggest a question game. There’s card games designed for couples or friends, but you could also pick your favourites from a list like this or download the app “carddecks” by John and Julie Gottman.

For an artistic activity that’s low-key and fun, how about clay?

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Have a water balloon fight….or fill some with watered down paint & aim at a canvas.

ragingloli's avatar

Wear fur suits, both.

Patty_Melt's avatar

Fingerpaint, but with this amusing twist, you paint a portrait of him, while at the same time he paints a portrait of you.
NO BRUSHES that would just be too easy. It would be kind of like caressing each other.

gorillapaws's avatar

You could play a game where you guys write a story together. The first person writes a paragraph, then the next has to pick up from there. You alternate paragraphs. These can get pretty funny, especially if you end the paragraphs with suspense (e.g. “and she opened the closet and couldn’t believe what she saw…”).

As far as food goes, Prosciutto e melone can be fun to make as a couple. It generates 0 additional heat, is refreshing to eat in the summer and involves a melon-baller. That’s a trifecta in my book.

Also, as @LuckyGuy pointed out, you can see how helpful he is in the kitchen.—sneaky.

ucme's avatar

Play social distancing twister!
Helps to be flexible but you don’t have to be Inspector Gadget.

seawulf575's avatar

@ucme Is social distancing Twister when you put one game board in one room and another in another room and you each get your own board?

ucme's avatar

@crimsontide It can be whatever you want, like the game…it’s flexible.

AshlynM's avatar

Youtube challenges, try not to laugh or cry.

Patty_Melt's avatar

^ Great idea! It would provide the opportunity to learn a lot about each other.

LuckyGuy's avatar

Take turns asking these 36 questions.
The 36 questions that lead to love from the New York Times.

“To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” she refers to a study by the psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) that explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one.

That sure sounds like fun!

anniereborn's avatar

@LuckyGuy Dang, that seems arduous. A lot of them also seem way to deep for a couple dating for only a short time.

jca2's avatar

Maybe even if it’s raining, if it’s not pouring outside you can take a walk or go to some public space where you can hang out.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Well, it didn’t rain this afternoon so we ended up just sitting outside and talking forever and then he got us ice cream, which is pretty cute. Just in case anyone wanted to know. We did talk about future art stuff to try together and next time we agreed to a more creative evening.

Thanks again :)

Patty_Melt's avatar

That sounds fun.
Yes, ice cream is cute. It is possibly the most innocent, non threatening invitation a man can make.
I’m glad to know it went well for you.

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