What would your s/o change about you?

tThat I don’t feed him 11 times a day and insist he go to the vet’s once a year.

Mine would like me to put on a few pounds.
He would also like me to quit insisting that I need Botox.

I think that is about it.

Nowt really, other than something trivial like I have way too many football shirts.

@ucme I have a shitload of hockey jerseys. What’s wrong with that?

The belching. The crude humor.

@Headhurts Precisely my point, nowt wrong with it, maybe she thinks they take up half the wardrobe space.

He would say that I should get with the 21st century and get a smart phone so I could text him. Number one, I can’t afford a smart phone, and two I enjoy having real conversations with people. I think that with texts, people miss a lot of the nuances and context. Plus, I’m afraid that I would become addicted to texting, seems like everyone on the street has that problem.

He wants me to not care where he goes or whether he comes home.

I’m getting there.

@Kardamom You’re talking about me, aren’t you? lol

It is way too easy to become a “texting addict”.
I need help. I’m not afraid to admit it.

@Seek_Kolinahr why shouldn’t you care? A little bit of jealousy means you value him.

@Seek_Kolinahr I’m not as jealous as I used to be by any means, but for him to expect you not to care where he goes and whether or not he comes home? Hellz no!
Just my opinion, but I think that’s asking just a little bit too much.
Even in my less jealous state, that is not something that I would tolerate very well.

He wold get me off the Internet and out helping him cut firewood.

@Katniss Yes! Fluther is pretty much a public version of texting, and you know that I’m addicted to this site, so yes, I would become a texting addict in a hot second.

She would like me to have a longer fuse. I’m pretty patient, but when I lose my temper… BOOM.

I’ve been working on it for over twenty years. I get angry much less frequently, and to a lesser degree. Still, more progress is needed.

Perhaps in twenty more years.

Me: If you could change something about me, what would you change?

Josh: I’d make you more confident about how you look.

Me: That’s it? You wouldn’t change anything else?

Josh: Nope, nothing else.

…liar.

That I need to stop stressing myself out. I feel the need to be in control of everything and tend to take responsibility for all the factors in my life, whether there are extenuating circumstances or not. Sometimes I give myself anxiety by getting too far into my head.

@livelaughlove21 Why do you think he’s lying?

@Headhurts men always lie. it’s just easier.

@Headhurts No one is perfect. And he puts up with a lot of shit to be with me. And the same goes for me.

Hang on, let me ask. Asks boyfriend… He says he would change my negative attitude. Hypocrite! And he would change the nagging. Guess it could have been worse! Personally I think he wanted to say “I would change the fact that you are never on top during sex. But hey. At least he kept it professional.

Maybe he’d change how unpredictable I could be, long-term. He would probably prefer more emotional safety or consistency but that’s not who he loves. You can’t have me and the anti-me at the same time.

I’ve always thought that women don’t fall in love with men. They fall in love with the man they imagine that they can mold out of the lump of clay they see.
of course when the man fails to live up to those expectations, woe be him

He would take away my chronic pain, if he could.

In the case of my most recent* former one… everything.

*Which isn’t particularly recent.

@drhat77 , a wise woman falls for a man who is already her ideal, not someone with potential.

@Judi but so many men are so defecient, and yet full of potential. And all the good ones are taken…

@Judi are you calling my wife not wise? Hold me back!

Nagging and temper.

Her: Quit yelling at the other drivers.
Me: Tell them to quit trying to kill me.
Her: And pick up your mess.
Me I like clutter
Her: Guys!

He said I’m a little selfconscious. He would like for me to live guilt and worry free.

The amount I drink and my grouchiness.

of course if you take away my drink you are removing the only thing keeping my grouchiness in check . . .

@Seaofclouds What do you have to be self conscious of? You’re the most put together person I know.
@Blondesjon Interesting theory we need to research more.

My first husband had all sorts of potential and I was ready to help him achieve it. When he didn’t live up to it I was disappointed and he was defeated.
My current husband was already everything I wanted in a man. I had no expectation of him changing because I adored him the way he was.

@Adirondackwannabe Thanks. He thinks I worry too much about my weight and too much about some things going on at my work. I am about 20 pounds heavier now than when we first started dating. I had been 30 pounds heavier, but I’ve already lost 10 pounds since starting to pay attention to what I’m eating. He could care less that I had the extra weight, but I know it’s not healthy and that’s my main concern. He tells me all the time that he still finds me attractive, but I can’t help but wonder how much so when I know I’m bigger than I use to be (thus the selfconscious stuff).

@Seaofclouds Little secret from the guy side. (A bunch of us.) We like a little more of our ladies, rather than less. Don’t tell anyone though.

SO??

I guess I wish he’d stop chewing on the furniture.

My boyfriend probably wishes I required less “rubs”.....I am honestly a rub addict. I require back rubs, head rubs, leg rubs, arm rubs, any rubs. But only because he has willingly given me them for so long, and is so good at them! Now, I find myself with an addiction, begging for rubs every night after work. Sometimes he gets tired of giving them and wishes I didn’t need so many….but no ones perfect.

She would not want to change anything about me. She would permanently remove the severe chronic pain with which I have lived for just under 10 years.

Ok, I asked him. He he’d want me to be tidier.

Frak that. Dammit, Jason, I’m an artist, not a housemaid.

I would imagine he would say
1. want sex more
2. lose weight (more for health than anything else honestly)

But I will ask him later on and see what he really says.

My husband tells me to let things go. I achieve my goals through hard work. I rarely give up on what matters. There are times I must say I No longer care. You can not force morons to comprehend the truth. You can not inspire ignorant or lazy people to investigate things.
I also obsess about being fit and thin. LOL, but I am.

With the most recent one, he wanted me to find a new job with less crazy hours, move in with him, go back to school, stop helping some relatives so much and spend more time with other relatives, go to bed earlier and wake up earlier, be more energetic, and be more responsible with money. Granted, these are all things that would make my life better, and I think he said so because he cared. But JFC, that’s a lot of things! We broke up.