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(NSFW) What is something that you refuse to try during sex?

Asked by Vunessuh (16696 points ) March 11th, 2010

We all have certain sexual activities that we don’t care for. Perhaps you’ve tried them and never will again.

For example, I’m not a fan of threesomes. They make me uncomfortable for some reason. I prefer the intimacy of being one-on-one with someone.
I also don’t like to be fingered and you’re definitely not throwing a fist in there.

What are yours? Anything particular at the top of your list?
Do you also have anything you’d like to try, but have yet to?

They can be sexual activities, fetishes, etc.

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134 Answers

ucme's avatar

Don’t touch the balls way too sensitive.Should get a tattoo down there, “No Ball Games”

FutureMemory's avatar

Nothing is going in my butt, and I’m not putting on an outfit.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

You would get your hand broken if you forced my head down into your nether regions for a blow job without my consent.

holden's avatar

No threesomes.

jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities's avatar

@FutureMemory Ahahahahahaha! My thoughts exactly.

dpworkin's avatar

I don’t know about refuse, but ass-play is not first on my list.

poisonedantidote's avatar

i will try anything once, and even if i dont like it i will keep doing it to keep my partner happy unless i really detest it.

so far, i have found nothing that i would not do again. having said that, i dont think i would be too keen on blood and turds and would most likely turn down anything to do with that.

plus anything obvious, like kids and goats (pun unintended)

Facade's avatar

Fisting
Anything to do with feces
Anything to do with needles or fire
Anything that leaves bruises

CMaz's avatar

No men. Unless (maybe) an incredibly sexy and beautiful Transsexual including another woman present.

And, no playing with my hiney. Well, just a little.

Jude's avatar

Pretty much anything goes. No extreme pain, though. Been there, done that and it wasn’t enjoyable. Biting hard, spanking, restraints are all good, but, I’m not into drawing blood (through painful activities) and getting smacked around.

Arisztid's avatar

For the most part, I will try anything once except…

no excrement. I do not consider urine, feces, and vomitus (I do not think that is an excrement but I am tossing it in there) to be sexual toys.

No way, no how, not a chance that I am interested in trying that.

Also, no heavy BDSM, of course autoeroticism is out and all forms of erotic asphyxiation (strangulation included). Bestiality is also, well, flat out disgusting and no.

If I get around to it I shall list what I have tried, not enjoyed, and will not do again.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@Facade needles on fire? wow

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@ChazMaz transsexuals aren’t men

Facade's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Needles or fire lol… but none of what you said either.

CMaz's avatar

Not going to go there. GA.

dpworkin's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir One ventures to guess that @ChazMaz would like to pretend they are, to make his own cryptic homosexuality easier to contemplate.

KatawaGrey's avatar

For the month and a half my boyfriend and I were broken up, I really wanted to have a threesome with two bisexual men but it never happened. Now that I’m back in the relationship, I have no interest in a threesome whatsoever.

I keep surprising myself, however, so I’m not going to say I would never do anything else.

Edit to add: No kids, no animals. I feel that goes without saying but people seem to be throwing various types of animals in so I thought I’d do it too.

TheLoneMonk's avatar

A dog and a pony at the same time. Never gonna happen.

CMaz's avatar

@dpworkin – You get a GA too!

This is one of those damned if you do damned if you don’t type of questions. LOL

MissAnthrope's avatar

Ummmmmmmm.. kind of embarrassing, but there’s not a lot I wouldn’t try.

My definite no’s are playing with poop, puke, guns, and strangulation.

poisonedantidote's avatar

observing members: 13

admit it people, we are all sick in the head round here

Jude's avatar

It’s been a NSFW week! We’re all a bunch of dirty bitches and ho’s.

CMaz's avatar

Or ho’s and bitches.

Arisztid's avatar

@poisonedantidote 11 now. Yes, people are sick around here.

Oh I forgot a few that are automatic no go’s that I edited into my answer (which was not well thought out) for anyone who read it when it was first posted.

ucme's avatar

Doing the crossword during.Tried it once got stuck on 1 down.Not recommended.

holden's avatar

It’s getting hot in here…

MissAnthrope's avatar

So take off all your clothes..

Jude's avatar

Bitches and ho’s
Ho’s and bitches
Bitches and ho’s

<<<pants on the ground>>>

Cruiser's avatar

I will try most anything but I draw the line at River Dancing in bed. The whole big group thing is not for me.

rebbel's avatar

Tried, but never again: insert peeled bananas.

Lightlyseared's avatar

Anything involving faeces – I get enough of that at work thank you.

dpworkin's avatar

@rebbel Just out of scientific curiosity, what was the peeled-banana result?

wilma's avatar

I’m afraid to say because since being here I have learned about so many things I wouldn’t do and I would never have thought about doing.
There are some new things I would try though, if I had a chance…

FutureMemory's avatar

@rebbel So the non-peeled bananas are working out though?

MissAnthrope's avatar

@rebbel – I can see that. Mushy.

God, I am seriously a really dirty person.

holden's avatar

I don’t even know why you would put any kind of fruit into any bodily orifice save your mouth.

CMaz's avatar

Fruit bad.

Vegetables good.

wilma's avatar

@Cruiser what is it with you and Riverdancing?
you got a secret crush on Michael Flatley?

Vunessuh's avatar

Thanks everyone for all of your answers so far. GA’s for everyone.
@wilma Joining in and not answering the question is not allowed. So spill it. We want to know. :)

CyanoticWasp's avatar

There are plenty of things I haven’t tried yet, and don’t plan to, but that doesn’t mean “I would never”.

But there are a few things we can rule out: I’m not drawing blood (or permitting my own to be spilled); no permanent marks of any kind; I want to come out of the experiment with the same number (and configuration) of body parts that I had going in… that sort of thing.

KatawaGrey's avatar

This is my favorite question.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@rebbel When I was in Amsterdam celebrating my 21st b-day, I went to a sex-show and the woman there performed tricks with peeled bananas and I was quite impressed.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@ChazMaz so glad you’re coming around to veganism after all

CMaz's avatar

Also, no animals.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir – Tell that to the girl I am with. She is the one going to get the Vegetable basket.

Jude's avatar

This thread is cracking me up. Oh, Fluther…

Bananas all around.

stump's avatar

I couldn’t do anything with poop or puke involved. Other than that, I would do just about anything I can think of under the right situation.

Your_Majesty's avatar

Oral sex. I’ve never tried that before and never want to(He never ask too). Honestly,feel nasty when SO’s cum is in my mouth. Beside,it’s him the one who’ll get the pleasure,not me.

ubersiren's avatar

I don’t mind being dominated a little, but I would fucking hate to be called slut or any equivalent, or for him to cum on my face. It’s not the semen itself, but something about it just makes me feel objectified and degraded. Anything degrading would be a huge turn off. Also poop.

dpworkin's avatar

@Doctor_D Yeah, that would, um, suck, for him to get any pleasure.

MissAnthrope's avatar

Oh yeah, no animals, either.

rebbel's avatar

@dpworkin I had to do surgery on my (then) girlfriend with plastic utensils and after that she used a vaginal shower.
The banana-mush was yummy, though.

KatawaGrey's avatar

@Doctor_D: Trust me, you would get some pleasure out of it. Personally, I get quite a feeling of power knowing that the most sensitive part of his body is in my mouth and thus, next to my chompers.

dpworkin's avatar

@rebbel Every cloud has a silver lining. In this case, banana mush™.

DominicX's avatar

Well, at this point, I’m not willing to try anal. My boyfriend doesn’t seem to be too interested either. I know for some people, that would mean a pretty boring gay relationship, but that’s not the case with us. We don’t need it. :\

ubersiren's avatar

@KatawaGrey LOL!

@Doctor_D I used to not like giving oral sex, but that changed when I met my husband. I love him, which I think makes a huge difference. It’s ok to just plain not like it. Everyone has his/her preferences.

wilma's avatar

well, ok @Vunessuh
I wouldn’t ever want is what most of you said you would never want. Animal, poop, torture, etc.
What I might want to try…
more than one guy, sex toys, don’t hurt me, too bad, don’t tell anyone what we did.
What do I love? ... sex outdoors, in the fresh air and sunshine or moonlight.

Jude's avatar

Speaking of bananas, I’m reminded of a line from a No Doubt song “This shit is bananas”..

b-a-n-a-n-a-s

KatawaGrey's avatar

@DominicX: You know, I’ve always wondered why people think a lack of anal makes a gay relationship boring. Personally, I think any sexual relationship between two men is AWESOME. Keep it up!

MissAnthrope's avatar

This has nothing to do with what I wouldn’t do, but I’ve had no outlet to talk about it, and I’ve been dying to because it felt so good and empowering. I made a girl quiver recently. I felt like a stud. :D

DominicX's avatar

@KatawaGrey :) hehe…will do! Just one more week and then I get to see him! :D

ucme's avatar

Bananas reminds me of the Woody Allen movie.Remember the orgasmatron? Now that’s something worth giving a try.Works for both sexes with a minimum of effort for maximum results.Actually that’s a great advertising hook.

Likeradar's avatar

Ass to mouth.

Just not gonna happen.

wtfrickinfrack's avatar

I had a bad experience with nipple clamps recently….

I…I…probably won’t be trying that again any time soon…. :/

shiver

iam2smart99037's avatar

Hmm. Not letting anyone touch my ass… No beastiality. No feces.

Vunessuh's avatar

Whoa. I wasn’t expecting such an outcome.
I suppose I’ll chime in with more of what I personally wouldn’t do.

I’m not a huge fan of sucking dick. Can’t stand the taste of semen and my gag reflexes are horrible. You can’t cum in my mouth or on my face.
I would prefer if all foreign objects (besides a dildo) would stay out of my gooch.
I don’t mind a little rough sex like having my hair pulled, but don’t strangle me or slap me around too hard. I don’t want to be physically hurt by the end of it.
Of course the obvious, no feces, puke, animals or children.
Not into anyone pissing on me either.
And you can’t double stuff me.

wtfrickinfrack's avatar

oh yeah and I’m not too thrilled with someone sucking on my toes/feet. They’re really ticklish for the record! I ended up accidentally kicking this one girl in the face while she was trying to “eroticize” my feet… needless to say, we didn’t last long lol

elenuial's avatar

There’s a saying in the kink scene: “I’m reasonable: My kink is okay, but yours is effing disgusting.”

I think that suffices to summarize everyone’s answers here. And if not, this might catch the rest: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=788H0K5KrYI

CMaz's avatar

I had a date this last weekend.

She said when she got home she noticed welts on her ass.

I said, you’re welcome.

softtop67's avatar

I have never refused to do anything. Even some things that were not my fancy, ie anal, I tried because of my partners desires. While extreme pain, animals etc I think are beyond my comfort zone, I have yet to have such requests

unique's avatar

not into humiliation…

wundayatta's avatar

nothing that all parties do not consent to

casheroo's avatar

Nothing goes in my butt. this does not mean I have no tried it, but I will never do it again in my life.

KatawaGrey's avatar

@wundayatta: “All” parties? How many parties we talking here? ;)

Arisztid's avatar

Oh I forgot.

I will not have vaginal or oral sex with a woman on her menses.

I am sorry, that is not just blood. It is old blood and tissue being shed by the body for a reason.

I have had a couple of exes who entertained themselves by not letting me know when they are on their menses. That usually results in me retching and running for something to wash it off with and not having sex with them for awhile.

This amuses people I tell it to because I work in the medical field and deal with all bodily substances, including excrement, vomitus, pus, bile, menses, and worse, without the bat of an eye. That is work. When I am in work mode nothing bothers me.m

casheroo's avatar

@Arisztid Even though I think it’s weird to be grossed out by period sex, I think it’s majorly messed up that those ladies did that to you. That’s really not cool.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

ya’ll can double stuff me…in fact I’ve been looking for a volunteer

Arisztid's avatar

@casheroo It is kind of a weird one but thankyou… I did not think that was too cool.

wilma's avatar

@Arisztid I agree with @casheroo , that wasn’t nice.

elenuial's avatar

@Arisztid They say you’re not a hunter until you’ve gotten blood on your spear.

Vunessuh's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I would gladly volunteer. Just please don’t return the favor.

Arisztid's avatar

@wilma Thankyou. :) One of the two did it once, the other twice (she was angry at me the second time but I did not know this)... not that big a deal.

@elenuial Now I have gotten blood on my spear… just not by my desire.

Keysha's avatar

I have to start by saying, when I met Aris I was 40 years old, and he was not only my first lover, but my first kiss. Having said that…

No feces
No urine
No children
No animals
No extreme pain
No strangulation.

Other than that, if Aris wants it, I’m willing. :) I might even allow extreme pain for a time, with him. not that he would ever want to cause me that, or allow anyone else to

Arisztid's avatar

@Keysha I am blessed. :)

And, no, that extreme pain thing is not what I am into on either end.

I forgot to add “no children” on my list.

wilma's avatar

Oh @Keysha, how romantic!

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I was a little surprised how vanilla some of the answers were. With this crew I expected more kink, not less. Kids.poop and nonconsenting animals and very extreme pain would be where I would draw the line. Have to see what the situation was with the rest.

elenuial's avatar

Can we just assume no kids, animals, scat, and dismemberment unless someone just says that’s what they want?

@Adirondackwannabe I’m not judging, but you might wish to know that the phrase “nonconsenting animals” seems to imply that you’re totally cool with consenting animals. And non-consenting people.

wundayatta's avatar

@KatawaGrey As many parties as are there. For the moment, that is two. In the past it might have been quite a bit more than that. And there was a dissenting party at the end. That was both funny and disappointing. Well, it was her room.

I seriously doubt if it will ever be more than two again, but I can’t say it’s off the table (or on, for that matter—unless the table were about yay high…;-).

Jude's avatar

Double stuffed = DP?

Vunessuh's avatar

@jjmah Yeah. I forgot to add, I don’t have the right plumbing, but that’s why God created strap-ons.

FutureMemory's avatar

I got no problem with period sex whatsoever.

Keep in mind the only woman I had the opportunity do it with was also a girl I was madly in love with, so that probably factored into it.

Jude's avatar

Wow, I come back from a run and this is still going, and I’m all hot and sweaty (from the run). Simone, c’mere.

elenuial's avatar

@Vunessuh Plastic makes it possible. Hooray technology!

MissAnthrope's avatar

@jjmah – I feel left out. Can I join?

Jude's avatar

@MissAnthrope girl, the more the merrier! C’mon in. You, too, Katawa.

KatawaGrey's avatar

I am a media production major so I’m qualified to film the whole thing…

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@elenuial Non-consenting people is always out.

Grisaille's avatar

Ditto on the extreme stuff here (if that’s your happening, cool – just not my thing).

Other than that, let’s party.

ucme's avatar

Her on top, me watching football on tv over her shoulder.For the sake of my health i’d never try that in a million years.

Symbeline's avatar

Fisting and anal sex don’t sound appealing to me at all. I’ve never tried either, maybe it’s actually fun, but I’ll trust my goosebumps of discomfort on these for now. Also, no poop please.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I’m very adventurous, so it would depend on the situation and my partner how far I’d let things go. I’m always against forcing someone to do anything.

Facade's avatar

@Grisaille Define “extreme”

Arisztid's avatar

Oh I just had to share this.

I had an ex who liked being strangled during sex until she almost blacked out. Errr… how many ways can I say no? We wound up compromising with my laying my hand on her throat, a light squeeze, but no strangling. I am phobic of asphyxiation.

I also cannot get past the word “no” in BDSM scenes. Even if it is prearranged that my partner is going to say “no” and it does not mean “no,” I stop. If it is prearranged that they when they say “stop” that it does not mean stop, I keep with the scene, the safe word in place. “No,” however, I cannot get past. This has been frustrating to myself and my partners. I have really tried.

When I say that I do not do heavy BDSM, that is where serious pain is involved (in my eyes). Minor to moderate is fine with me, it is up to my partner what they want but, even then, I cannot go as far as inflicting serious pain. Marks are fine, of course with full agreement of my partner. (I always talk BDSM out thoroughly first)

Grisaille's avatar

@Facade poo poo et al

deni's avatar

Nothing ridiculous. I don’t want pissed, shit, or vomited on. I don’t want to be physically injured. I would not be into threesomes or an orgy, because if I am in love with someone and having sex with them, I enjoy how personal and intimate and loving it is (even when its wild, you can still look them in the eyes and feel the love, so to speak. feel…get it…) and i dont want 40 other people in all my holes and i certainly don’t want to see HIM in anyone else’s holes. hahahah.

and i dont really love being fingered, so definitely no fists.

Mikelbf2000's avatar

No poop, no pee, no cutting or knife play (appearantly that exists). Nothing goes in my butt.

elenuial's avatar

You know, considering the nature of responses here, I’m reminded of a conjecture that you can take a litmus test of sexual mores, including what’s considered risque, hot, and just outside of the permissible zone, by reading a sample of romance novels from the time.

Thirty years ago, oral was a huge thing that caused flabbergasted responses and giggles of, “Oh, I would never try that… well, maybe if the mood was right.” And it was the clincher, the “you know it’s love if…” sex act in romance novels.

Now, anal is the big thing in romance novels. And group sex/multiple partners is starting to get a strong showing.

ZEPHYRA's avatar

Well after all these masterpieces no point in answering anymore!

Grisaille's avatar

@elenuial I suppose you are suggesting that, in 30 years time, romance novel denouements will be akin to “and he rubbed the diarrhea into her hair like a muddy shampoo”?

Because that’s a future I don’t want to visit. What happened to transhumanism?

elenuial's avatar

@Grisaille I only make predictions if they’re hilarious. So, I guess, sure, that’s what I’m saying.

Really, though, that’s making a pretty big teleological assumption. History seems to indicate that mores tend to cycle a bit more than that. I’m just saying that, 30 years down the line, if you want to get a good idea of what people think about the bedroom (however tame or kinky it might be), romance novels are probably a good place to check.

Still, if you’re down for the muddy shampoo thing, it looks like you’re going to have to visit somewhere other than Fluther.

Grisaille's avatar

@elenuial I don’t know, Fluther seems like the perfect medium for this. After all, we were planning on filling a pool with chocolate, soft-serve ice cream.

KatawaGrey's avatar

@Grisaille: If you’re actually talking about ice cream, then that sounds like the most awesome thing ever, but only if there are pitted cherries in the pool as well.

filmfann's avatar

Ass to mouth.
anything that involves urinating or poop.

thriftymaid's avatar

That goat named Bob

filmfann's avatar

I thought his name was Billy!

Violet's avatar

toilet slaves (which is different than golden showers) and bestiality

jbfletcherfan's avatar

Well, I can’t add anything that’s not already been said. I agree with all the “I won’ts”. Interesting answers here, as always.

Arisztid's avatar

@elenuial Thinking of how social mores change, just a few decades ago interracial sex was taboo and now it is pretty much ok.

@Violet Toilet slaves are very different than golden showers and that actually makes me feel a bit sick. Then my job kicks in and I wonder “how the hell can they survive that?”

Violet's avatar

@Arisztid I actually learned about toilet slaves from AB4Adult. Golden showers, doesn’t necessarily have to involve the mouth

JeffVader's avatar

No animals, corpses, no-one young or too old, no gimp masks, don’t ever under any circumstances try & stick something in me, no faeces or golden showers, not into pain but might accommodate a little for the right person, no extra people…. there’s probably a few more but that’s all I can think of for now.

Sophief's avatar

I don’t know really. I think I would give most things a go. I wouldn’t involve ither people, I’ve nearly done that before and it felt wrong.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

No ham sandwiches .Ever.

Arisztid's avatar

@Violet Holy crap… that is where I learned about toilet slaves.

Add corpses and gimp masks to my list too.

bob_'s avatar

No shit.

KatawaGrey's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille: I’m afraid to ask, what’s a ham sandwich?

CyanoticWasp's avatar

@KatawaGrey $5 for the foot-long at Subway.

sleepdoc's avatar

No urine, poop. Can’t say I am really keen on the idea of anything going into my backside either.

choreplay's avatar

I would have like to think that I would answer this question with a “I would do anything”, but after reading through all of the above I now have this list.
No urine, feces, and vomitus
No extreme pain
Nothing with lasting injuries
No men unless we are working as a team on a consenting woman with attention only to the women.
No Bestiality
No loaded guns
No one not an adult of consenting age
No non consenting anyone
No period secretions combined with oral
No corpses (thanks Jeff, almost forgot that one)

By the way, what’s double stuffed?

KatawaGrey's avatar

@Season_of_Fall: If I understand correctly, it’s two penises, one vagina, though I imagine the term could apply to any hole and multiple phallic objects.

choreplay's avatar

@KatawaGrey, yes, but sorry my wife wouldn’t lend me out. You’ll get your two guy experience, just be patient. ;)

Ajulutsikael's avatar

Won’t do pedophilia, necrophilia, beastiality, dendrophilia, scat, vomiting, blood sport.

I want to have a threesome, but have yet to find a girl in the area that both me and my bf are willing to sleep with.

DominicX's avatar

@Ajulutsikael

“Dendrophilia”? Sex with trees? The fuck?

Ajulutsikael's avatar

Well, seeing as I’m the only one that mentioned not wanting to do it…

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