What's something that women who don't care for flowers like to receive as much as those women who enthusiastically do like a gift of flowers?

I like books, or music great way to get me to listen to the band you want me to listen to.

Scarves; soft, luxurious, bright or different colors.

I once was given a little copendium of mango-y gifts, we first saw each other while trying to find that perfectly ripe mango, and later I ran into him at a street fair and I was ordering a mango smoothie and I had to make sure they were using real fruit.

I once was given an assortment of naturey post it notes and colored pens. I have post it notes on fridge and cupboards, some on my couch and bed and doors and pens scattered near by always ready for quick qoute from something I read or a reminder or phone number.

Really it depends on the person. If they don’t like bouquets it could be a number of reasons. Allergies, practicality, efficiency wanting something that might last i.e. a potted plant, they aren’t home enough to enjoy feel they spent enough time enjoying them or something geared toward them personally.

Orgasms!......j/k….but seriously.
If that’s not appropriate, I suggest candy, my great grandma was always thrilled to get a box of candy.

For me, it’s books.
Or Swiss Rolls. Either will do. :)

Fuck yeah on the Swiss rolls!....they are awesome even when frozen.

I’m one of those women who don’t like cut flowers. I love plants though and will gladly adopt a plant and keep it nurtured and watch it grow. I wear loads of tshirts, so something with a cute picture or my fav sci fi stuff on it will be a hit. (I recently got a tshirt from a sweet man with a Firefly logo on it.) I love coffee, so a bag of some great expensive boutique blend will be appreciated. Find out things she’s into and enjoys. There is no substitute for a gift that screams, ‘Look! I’ve been paying attention and listening to what you say!’

Everything that @cazzie said. I also love soap, souvenirs, tea, candy, little things that show I was thought of. I am a person who likes flowers, too. Someone recently gave me some cuttings of a plant, which was a great gift because now, every time I look at the plant, I think of the person, and know we’re co-parenting the plant LOL.

Diamonds, dahling.

Seriously though, I’m enthusiastic about any gift.
Just knowing that my man is thinking about me and cares enough to buy me something is enough.

Anything that shows the thought that your partner cares is good. My S/O always says not to do flowers on Valentine’s day. Her smile says something else.

I prefer to have my guy do something for me, such as cleaning out the car when I just don’t have time to do it myself, or cleaning the kitchen (my guy doesn’t normally do that).

Anything that shows the person knows me. Some of these anyone could do and some are rmantic reationship oriented. My husband has brought home sugar can coke, jamoca almond fudge ice cream (both of those anyone could bring me) a really nice letter about loving being in a relationship with me, unload the dishwasher (I hate that chore). An SO has more options, because they know what little things you want or need, material or not.

My mom brings me coupons for products I like. Costs her nothing, but cutting them out and it makes me smile.

A friend of mine brought me a tshirt from where she lives and I love it! My husband is sick of seeing it. If someone lives out of state it’s neat to get something local. From MI a nice gift is dried cherries, Memphis can be BBQ sauce/rub or I often gave a box of candy from the local confectioner.

I also like when someone takes me out shopping or surprises me by paying. That is more of what my family did when I was growing up, and feels more comfortable to me. I don’t have to worry about faking a smile or being taken off guard. But, that typically is a larger gifts I guess? It doesn’t have to be. If I liked a book and the person I was with bought it for me when we were at the book store it would be a great treat! My dad took my husband and I shopping one day and my husband piled up about $70 of underwear, undershirts and socks, and you would think he received a $1200 Armani Suit. LOL. My husband bought me a ring on the spot that I liked in a store, and it is one of my favorite rings, I can’t believe we bought it. I am not a big jewelry person, and typically we don’t soend that much money spur of the moment.

A few more comments. I recommend thinking twice about bringing sweets, because many people watch what they eat now. I don’t drink alcohol and I get gifts of wine and liquor all the time. I don’t like candles, soaps or lotions, and I get those all the time. I appreciate the thought and time someone took to buy me a gift though. The gift doesn’t really mean more or less if I like it or will use it, but a gift that I can really use or appreciate is best and will stay with me. I will never experience the bottle of wine, and the candle will be regifted to someone else. Price point has nothing to do with anything by the way. Like I said free coupons make me smile.

@Adirondackwannabe So you think because she smiles that she wouldn’t prefer something else? Or, prefer not to spend the money?

@JLeslie No, the smile is because I was thinking of her and even though she gave me a free pass I still was willing to go the extra mile for her.

I don’t particularly like cut flowers as a gift. I always smile, though, because it was thoughtful and they are beautiful and I appreciate the effort.

I like gifts that will last longer than a week and that I wouldn’t typically buy for myself, preferably homemade.

- plants
– natural soaps
– new sheets/towels
– a beautiful handmade pottery item
– a poem
– a mixtape/playlist

I also like mutual experiences. A hike in the woods, a walk through a park, sitting on the beach and watching the waves and people, etc.

@JLeslie I love your answer!

Last summer my fiancé and I were out shopping. There was a book I wanted, but I didn’t want to spend the money on it. The next day he came home from work with the book. It meant a lot to me because he was actually paying attention to what I was looking at and because he cared enough to know that it was something I really wanted and he wanted me to have it.

@Adirondackwannabe I would smile for the same reason, but I am cheap enough that would rather he spent the money on something else. But, I can’t speak for your wife.

Well, it’s my birthday and my daughter surprised me with McD’s breakfast! WAY better than flowers!

Jewelry.

@Dutchess_III Today is your birthday?

@Dutchess_III Like my Krystal burgers on my Crystal anniversary (15 years)? Best gift ever! My husband loves getting $10 Starbucks GC cards from people, because he hates paying for expensive coffee.

Surely it varies from woman to woman?

Gift cards for favorite restaurants, favorite stores, or massages, and of course, chocolates.

Chocolate.

Diamonds or a weekend luxury getaway with her lovaaaaaa – lol, flowers don’t last.

Chocolate cheesecake.

@KNOWITALL: I know you were joking, because there’s a bit of a difference between flowers or other trinkets and diamonds and trips. :)

Diamonds because the only way to truly prove your love to a woman is to give her something that countless small African children died harvesting. It’s the blood of the innocence which really proves ya care.

:( cherry chocolate cheesecake….?

Books, gift cards for favorite shops, and good food.

The gift of seeing the dishes cleaned and put away.

Or a Denver Broncos sweatshirt.

Not sure if this has been mentioned but how about a cookie bouquet or a edibbale arrangement fruit bouquet

Food. Any tasty food will do it for me. Candy, chocolate, dinner, desserts, snacks, etc. I’d pick food over an orgasm any day of the week.

Makeup is a big one for me, but I’d want to pick it out myself. A gift card to Sephora would be amazing.

A cool electronic device if you’re feeling generous. Or an iTunes card. Or a new DVD.

I’m not big on jewelry, believe it or not.

Each person, mal or female, is unique, so the token of one’s affection that will melt their heart will vary greatly. I am a non-romantic sort and I have allergies, but I do smile when given flowers. My sweetie learned early on that it’s not something that I really like, so he hasn’t gotten them for me since our first year. I have gotten them for him, though, because he likes them. Now that he knows me better than anyone, his thoughtfulness and consideration come through in his actions.

Take me out for dinner or bring dinner in. I love to cook, but it’s so nice not to have to sometimes.

Chocolate, mostly.

Jalapeno poppers!

@jca Oh yeah, just kidding. I’ll take a 25 cent garage sale book any day – lol

I think life is fairly simple. Women who do not like a gift flowers are simply not my type.

I don’t get why any woman prefers receiving flowers over another gift. Sure, they’re pretty and smell nice, but they’ll be dead and in the trash in a matter of days. They simply aren’t worth the money. The thought is nice, but at least other gifts last long enough to get your money’s worth out of them. It’s a completely sentimental, impractical gift. No thanks.

@livelaughlove21
Then you are clearly not my type. Not that it matters to you, but there you go :)

@josie C’est la vie.

Technically speaking, everything will eventually end up in the trash….can’t live forever….just sayin.

I do enjoy cutting flowers from my garden and bringing them indoors. I love the outdoors, so it’s nice to bring a bit of it inside, especially when I might be cooped up for a few days due to an illness or extreme weather.

Flowers brighten up my mother’s room in the nursing home. Her room would look sterile if she didn’t have those flowers. I’m sure she appreciates the several days they stand tall and bring color and fragrance to her otherwise boring room.

There are many benefits of having flowers in your home or work space. The mental health benefits of flowers.

I’d still rather have a comfy Broncos sweatshirt, but I wouldn’t be disappointed if I received flowers.

I like flowers, too. I’m never disappointed to get them, and in fact, sometimes they are just the thing to brighten my day/mood. Sometimes I even buy some myself, just to cheer the place up. All things considered, I’d still rather have a book.

@cheebdragon Yes. Which is why I said, “at least other gifts last long enough to get your money’s worth out of them”. I never implied they lasted forever – just longer than a few days.

@livelaughlove21 I completely agree. Especially when I was younger I felt that way, when money was tighter. Still, even now, I’d rather get a more practical gift. I think some people just love flowers, it doesn’t even have to do with the sentimental thing. I see a vase of flowers and it doesn’t really do much for me, or change the room as @jonsblond pointed out, but I can appreciate her point. So, the money just seems wasted, even though I find many flowers to be beautiful. My MIL and BIL love flowers and I see them when a vase of flowers is in the room. They focus on them much more than I do. It fills their brain more than mine. For flowers to affect me they need to take up a lot of space and be very impactful. I have changed a little as I get older; in general I appreciate nature more, but still spending money on it isn’t my cup of tea. I’d rather spend money on something else.

It’s why I questioned @Adirondackwannabe, because I figure as a married couple their money is combined. If my husband buys me something I would prefer not spend money on, he has spent our money on something I don’t want to spend money on. But, if we spend it on a bouquet of flowers for his mom, she gets such a thrill out of it, it’s ok with me. It’s like paying to go on a roller coaster, doesn’t last long, but it is worth it to pay for it for some people.

@JLeslie We’re not married. She’s very into visual things, decorating for each season, etc. She loves anything that appeals to the eye, so I do it for her.

@Adirondackwannabe I don’t know why I thought you were married all this time. I obviously cannot know what is in her head or why she tells you not to bother. I only really know why I don’t like getting flowers. I’m visual too, but flowers just don’t do it for me, and then they die. I don’t decorate for each season (my grandma did that with her furniture and colors, I am not sure if that is what you mean? She changed her sofas and chairs from blue in the summer to rust in the winter) but I find alot of happiness seeing things I love.

@JLeslie She’s very into arts and crafts, that kind of things. She’s very visual. But she’s also practical. I think that’s why she says don’t buy them, but she loves getting them.

@livelaughlove21 I never said you implied anything, I was just pointing out a fact, it wasn’t directed at you.

I know the perfect gift! Buy some really gorgeous flowers for her….and add the supplies needed for one of these ! It’s pretty and it’s so fucking cute, I would love a gift like this…

…..she might even thank you by giving you an orgasm. lol